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To be pissed that i'll be doing other people errands on my break

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PhoebeBuffay1 Wed 21-Oct-20 00:12:17

So OH will be having a minor op and has asked me to drive him back as he wont be able to due to being heavily medicated. I agreed but said i didnt want to return late so OH has booked us into a fancy hotel nearby and we will stay the night and leave tge next day. But my family have got wind of this and now are adding errands on for me to do. Like can you go and check on x and can you drop this to y. Im just so annoyed i want to cancel the whole thing but ive been looking forward to the break.

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Flavabobble Wed 21-Oct-20 00:14:02

You just explain you won't be able to. Don't offer explanations, just a polite no.

AfterSchoolWorry Wed 21-Oct-20 00:14:09

Just tell them no.

EL8888 Wed 21-Oct-20 00:18:02

I’d just decline. You have more than enough on your plate.

TheDuchessofMalfy Wed 21-Oct-20 00:18:45

Just say no!

rorosemary Wed 21-Oct-20 00:21:24

Either say no, say you don't want to leave him alone when he's medicated or say nothing and text them on that day/evening that it didn't work out due to his medical needs.

katy1213 Wed 21-Oct-20 00:24:17

Just say no. How difficult is that? Don't offer excuses or explanations.

throwaway100000 Wed 21-Oct-20 00:29:59

An easy way out would be to tell them you’re literally just staying the night then driving home first thing? He is recovering from surgery after all.

What are they asking you to do?

OhioOhioOhio Wed 21-Oct-20 00:32:28

Definitely just say no.

Weirdfan Wed 21-Oct-20 00:35:44

Say no OP, don't let them ruin the tiny bright spot you've managed to find in a presumably not very nice situation. You and DH matter too and it's perfectly reasonable to want to focus on yourselves, especially as DH is having surgery. Just say no, they can't make you do any of it flowers

burglarbettybaby Wed 21-Oct-20 00:36:59

So rude of them under the circumstances just no. Tell them you won't have time

jessstan1 Wed 21-Oct-20 00:52:51


You just explain you won't be able to. Don't offer explanations, just a polite no.


It's unreasonable and ridiculous for them to ask this of you.

Ponoka7 Wed 21-Oct-20 00:59:08

Tell them that you've been told that because of the risk of your DP catching Covid in the hospital, you've been told to limit your movements, also there's a general infection risk for him and the whole point of it is 24 hour recovery time. That's if you can't say an outright no.

NeonGenesis Wed 21-Oct-20 01:31:31

Say no.

If you've already agreed then tell them you're no longer able to. Back out.

CounsellorTroi Wed 21-Oct-20 01:34:04

Tell them the hospital have told you your OH must have someone with him for 24 hours after the op. So he can’t be left.

seayork2020 Wed 21-Oct-20 01:35:35

Use the word no

Shodan Wed 21-Oct-20 01:38:51

If you really can't just say 'No', as is your right, then say that you've found out that you won't have any spare time to check on x or deliver something to y, very sorry, hope they get it sorted. Then move the conversation along.

If they keep saying things like 'Oh but it'll only take 20 minutes, surely you can spare that' you say 'No, sorry, I told you I won't have any spare time'/'No, can't, sorry'/ 'No, I won't have the time'

Don't give up your night in a lovely hotel.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay Wed 21-Oct-20 01:46:12

Voted YABU - why on earth don;t you just say "no"?
- but YANBU in feeling pissed off at the stream of requests

SBTLove Wed 21-Oct-20 01:52:58

You’re staying the night at a hotel, what on earth can you be asked to do? I’m a bit mystified 🙄

Poulter Wed 21-Oct-20 02:38:08

Definitely say no. They're being unreasonable by asking you. So it should be easy to turn them down.

Italiangreyhound Wed 21-Oct-20 02:55:25

No is a complete sentence.

Isthisannoying Wed 21-Oct-20 02:59:16

You just need to say no. Say you need to look after dh if you want an excuse.

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