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To think she keeps getting pregnant on purpose?

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Opalwindfury Thu 01-Oct-20 14:35:52

So I’ve got BIL’s wife (we’ll call her Sam) who seems to get pregnant every time any of us gets pregnant and it’s starting to look A little strange. When SIL got pregnant first Sam was livid saying SIL did it on purpose to “steal the spotlight” from her and then proceeded to announce her pregnancy 2 months later.
Another BIL’s (youngest BIL) wife got pregnant about a year later (Sam was upset and claimed it was to sabotage the attention her child was getting 😬) then proceeded to announced her pregnancy a couple months later. About 2 years later I got pregnant with my first and 4 months later she announced she was as well fair enough. Then about 4 years with no babies and the youngest SIL got married and got pregnant straight away and boom 3 months later SIL is pregnant! I’m now pregnant about 6 months after she’s had hers and she’s announced again (A month after we announced) that she’s pregnant are we being silly to think that she’s doing this on purpose? Or is she just fertile myrtle? And we’re all silly?

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Lockheart Thu 01-Oct-20 14:37:59

How many children does this woman have?!

If she's going to try to keep up with the whole family she'll end up with a small army.

FourPlasticRings Thu 01-Oct-20 14:38:36

Your guess is as good as mine.

Singlebutmarried Thu 01-Oct-20 14:39:53

I make it 5

AnneLovesGilbert Thu 01-Oct-20 14:40:28

Most people get pregnant on purpose.

But as to your SIL, she’s not doing it by herself so why are you only questioning her motivations and not BIL’s?

Lizadork Thu 01-Oct-20 14:42:10

Likely just coincidental but I can get why suspicious. Maybe just pot luck or maybe your pregnancies put it back into their house as a hot topic. That it was on the agenda any but then the reality gives it a push as "Opal pregnant, aww wouldnt it be nice to be at the newborn stage again?" etc.

lyralalala Thu 01-Oct-20 14:42:12

You think she's had 5 (or 6) kids just to spite you all?

nimbuscloud Thu 01-Oct-20 14:43:13

What’s bil’s role in this? Maybe he’s pushing this ?

Purpleneonpinkunicorns Thu 01-Oct-20 14:43:25

She seems like shes jealous that you all are getting attention so she wants some also...obviously shes getting the wrong kind of attention

JunkCrumpet Thu 01-Oct-20 14:43:37

She'd have to very fertile to get pregnant that quickly every time if she didn't start trying until after she found out about the other pregnancies. I'd say it's stranger that she has a problem with everyone else being pregnant.

WooMaWang Thu 01-Oct-20 14:44:09

Presumably she and her husband want a big family. It’s not that unusual for siblings of more or less similar ages all have children at the same time as each other. The age spread of my cousins suggests that a lot of SILs were pregnant at much the same time (there are 4 of us within a year of each other).

I doubt anyone just decides to face more children to steal their SIL’s thunder. Repeatedly.

EatDessertFirst Thu 01-Oct-20 14:44:22

Does your BIL have no part/"blame" in this? Or just the crazy woman you are making your SIL out to be.

I think you need a hobby.

HaggisBurger Thu 01-Oct-20 14:44:49

First time I’ve seen 50:50
On a AIBU

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult Thu 01-Oct-20 14:45:32

Its maybe just making her broody to see others pregnant 🤷‍♀️

DioneTheDiabolist Thu 01-Oct-20 14:46:00

All the more cousins for your children to enjoy.smile

leafeater Thu 01-Oct-20 14:46:43

It's great that all the cousins will the same age smile

Legoandloldolls Thu 01-Oct-20 14:48:09

I got pregnant on purpose. I wanted a baby

ShortColdandGrey Thu 01-Oct-20 14:48:11

I have a SIL who is exactly the same. She actually said she had to get pregnant because myself, and other SIL was. She was jealous others were getting attention for being pregnant or had a baby. I am waiting on her announcing another pregnancy, because another SIL is pregnant.

Opalwindfury Thu 01-Oct-20 14:48:30

I’m not thinking it’s to spite us at all but it’s a little strange especially since someone mentioned BIL he was upset she’s got pregnant with the 4th as she swore she was on the pill and he found out she’d been tracking ovulation behind his back claiming she was on Birth control he even threatened to leave her my husband and his brother had to actually talk him out of it.

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fahrt Thu 01-Oct-20 14:50:00

Exactly the same happened with us. SIL now has 9 kids. She is saying she doesn't know if she will stop yet either (everyone else has stopped).
We have to laugh as it is actually quite tragic.
(And we keep our distance as much as possible. This is just the tip of the iceberg)

JunkCrumpet Thu 01-Oct-20 14:52:53

Opalwindfury

I’m not thinking it’s to spite us at all but it’s a little strange especially since someone mentioned BIL he was upset she’s got pregnant with the 4th as she swore she was on the pill and he found out she’d been tracking ovulation behind his back claiming she was on Birth control he even threatened to leave her my husband and his brother had to actually talk him out of it.

Why did your husband talk him out of leaving her? What she did was wrong and a horrible way to treat him. Women who lie about birth control in order to trick men into having children are awful people. Children are not there to use as weapons and if she doesn't understand that before they're born she'll use them throughout their lives. I would've absolutely supported his decision to leave.

ShortColdandGrey Thu 01-Oct-20 14:54:21

Maybe she thought it would bring you all closer together and the kids would all grow up together. I do know someone that got upset because her SIL fell pregnant not long after her. She felt her child didn't get to be the baby of the family long enough.

Opalwindfury Thu 01-Oct-20 14:59:27

Me and SIL were against them talking him out of since what she did was horrible but they didn’t want to see the kids end up in a broken home

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Mummyoflittledragon Thu 01-Oct-20 15:00:33

nimbuscloud

What’s bil’s role in this? Maybe he’s pushing this ?

Well he’s certainly pushing something somewhere...

@Opalwindfury

IF you’re that sure she’s doing this maybe a heads up? I really don’t understand why you talked him out of leaving his wife.

Mummyoflittledragon Thu 01-Oct-20 15:01:06

Ah cross post. I see it male wisdom. Always a winner.

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