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Katiemaggie Wed 30-Sep-20 23:44:36

So found a piece of writing in my son's book bag after he went to sleep. It read(without names) :

Plan a: catch child x, child y, child z

Plan b: kill miss teacher

Plan c: escape from my house

Initially I read it and thought it was probably just a silly game or something but then I remembered he said he felt sad at school today but wouldn't elaborate. Will obviously have chat with him tomorrow. Just up worrying about it now!

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Smellbellina Wed 30-Sep-20 23:45:23

How old is he?

Katiemaggie Wed 30-Sep-20 23:47:06

He's 6

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Zany15 Wed 30-Sep-20 23:54:20

I think something has happened at school and you need to find out what it is. Children can overract to events that seem trivial to an adult but loom very large to a child and these were possibly his first thoughts. Please have a talk to him, but don't be surprised if he has forgotten about it. You need to explain how he can react to situations he finds upsetting, ie. tell a teacher.

MayIJustAsk Wed 30-Sep-20 23:55:59

Poor little thing. He is obviously not happy with the children he named and the teacher. Could they be bullying him and he feels the teacher doesn't notice or support him? He is probably just struggling with his feelings (rather than him being a child murderer). Those people have likely upset him or maybe he is struggling and feels they are coping so much better than him. He likely doesn't know how to deal with his feelings so he wants to hurt them so they feel like he does. Hope you get to the bottom of it x

Katiemaggie Wed 30-Sep-20 23:57:53

Thanks, that's what I thought too to be honest. He's a sensitive little thing really and doesn't always express his feelings. Could well have been written in frustration. Thank you so much for the advice

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Katiemaggie Wed 30-Sep-20 23:59:46

I don't think the children are bullying him but I will check. They are our neighbours as well as his school peers and he is usually begging to go and play with them out the front.

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Emeraldshamrock Thu 01-Oct-20 00:01:08

I am wondering if it is the game hello neighbor? You catch the children in it? I know there is a Miss T that crosses over with the neighbor game.
I hope it is nothing serious and just play talk.

Katiemaggie Thu 01-Oct-20 00:02:40

I have never heard of that game and haven't heard him talk about it either. Fingers crossed he opens up a bit tomorrow x

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Emeraldshamrock Thu 01-Oct-20 00:08:08

I just thought of it as I collect DS earlier than the other DC at break time lots of the DC run about playing it as a chasing game where one is the neighbor. They're 5/6.
He may have picked it up in school.
I don't think there is killing in it.

Smellbellina Thu 01-Oct-20 00:18:13

Oh bless him. Tell him you found the note and ask him if he can tell you about it.

Katiemaggie Thu 01-Oct-20 00:21:23

Yes, that's my plan. fingers crossed he opens up

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TitsOutForHarambe Thu 01-Oct-20 01:20:34

I thought of Hello Neighbour too!

If he doesn't play that game then I agree with others that it sounds like something has happened at school and he would benefit from talking to you about it, if you can get him to open up. Unless there's a backstory of concerning behaviour then I wouldn't worry about this. 6 year olds might say/think these sorts of things when something has happened that they deem as unjust. I remember muttering to myself that I was going to hurt my mum and my brother if I got blamed for something that he had done. I don't think I even knew what it meant in any real way.

seayork2020 Thu 01-Oct-20 01:28:20

I can't remember the full details as it was a while ago now but I remember having a word with ds when he was about this age about the word kill or die or something like that as he got while I was asking and even thought he was young he reassured me it did not actually mean that specifically, it may have been a popular game or toy or show/movie thing at the time but that was back about 8 years or so

I don't remember needing to talk to him again about anything like that but I am glad we talked

blueberrypie0112 Thu 01-Oct-20 01:29:58

Yes. He is having deep troubling thoughts and screaming for help. Help him.

blueberrypie0112 Thu 01-Oct-20 01:34:18

Ok I just read he is six, he is probably learning to write so he probably couldn’t spell something correctly. So I would ask him about it.

luceloop Thu 01-Oct-20 01:34:35

Are the kids names kids you know? It does sound like a game plan to me. All the kids games involve killing somewhere, but they just respawn and carry on

WetdreamBeliever Thu 01-Oct-20 01:34:52

blueberrypie0112

Yes. He is having deep troubling thoughts and screaming for help. Help him.

ODFOD.
He's 6! He's not 16 and torturing pets. You've seen too many movies.

blueberrypie0112 Thu 01-Oct-20 01:49:03

Yes I just now saw his age, and no I have been watching too many news.

Leaannb Thu 01-Oct-20 01:53:25

@WetdreamBeliever our has watched or read American news headlines. A note like that found in a child's book bag in America has very different connotations. Police and social work involvement, criminal charges, courts and teams of psychologists and psychiatrists.

Leaannb Thu 01-Oct-20 01:54:54

@we...My son reminded me about the school closures and investigations and locker searches and nolkbag searches.

blueberrypie0112 Thu 01-Oct-20 02:00:00

Yes, I thought he was a bit older too. 6 years old are different, either they are ust playing and don’t mean anything, or just a misunderstanding

WetdreamBeliever Thu 01-Oct-20 02:02:17

blueberrypie0112

Yes I just now saw his age, and no I have been watching too many news.

OK. I withdraw the previous statement after this clarification.

WetdreamBeliever Thu 01-Oct-20 02:06:30

Leaannb

*@WetdreamBeliever* our has watched or read American news headlines. A note like that found in a child's book bag in America has very different connotations. Police and social work involvement, criminal charges, courts and teams of psychologists and psychiatrists.

Ridiculous. If they look hard enough I'm sure they'll find it. But amongst 6 yo's really?

Katiemaggie Thu 01-Oct-20 06:29:31

Thanks for all the replies. I am not worried that he will do anything violent or that he means what he has written. He is 6 and generally a very kind and mild mannered boy which is why this is out of character for him. I was more worried that something had upset him.

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