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Dd has mentionitis...should I say something

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ooohbananas · 30/09/2020 10:15

So dd, 16, started a new weekend job (at a local bar/restaurant. She works the Sunday lunch shift for now. She had a great time and really enjoyed it...however she has had mentionitis about one of the guys working behind the bar...he's just 19 and in his final year at school (so he only does a few hours on Sunday to help over lunch time)

Now I don't mind, she clearly likes the guy...but do I say something to her or do I leave it go? She mentions him at least hourly at this point...🤣🤣

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AriettyHomily · 30/09/2020 10:16

Don't say anything!!

BashfulClam · 30/09/2020 10:22

Why would you say anything and embarrass her. Jeez my mum and dad did that kinda shit and I shut down on them!

Costacoffeeplease · 30/09/2020 10:25

Why? Just why?

Tonightstheteriyakichicken · 30/09/2020 10:26

What the others have said.
Remember how it was when you were 16, be kind.

Byallmeans · 30/09/2020 10:26

No! Listen to what she has to say about him incase he asks her out on a date

Plussizejumpsuit · 30/09/2020 10:26

Just leave her alone. What good would bringing it up do other tha. Embarrassing her?

Toilenstripes · 30/09/2020 10:27

Have the good grace to stay quiet. Unless you want to embarrass her.

Codexdivinchi · 30/09/2020 10:27

My eldest is 25 I’ve gotten really good at just keeping my face neutral and hiding my inward alarm ....

She tends to tell me a bit more than she should but I least I know where she is at

IncludeWomenInTheSequel · 30/09/2020 10:29

It depends on the kind of relationship you have I guess. My DD wouldn't like it if I mentioned it but my son would take that as a cue to talk about her nonstop until the end of time.

ooohbananas · 30/09/2020 10:39

We do have a very good relationship...she tells me a lot!! She is my oldest and only so I have never tread these waters before...I honestly wouldn't want to embarrass her (to be honest I don't think she even realised she is mentioning him so much!) she hasn't really been around boys all that much (she goes to an all girls school) so I might just keep quiet and see how it pans out.

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ooohbananas · 30/09/2020 10:40

@IncludeWomenInTheSequel 🤣🤣well I get the feeling she might be like you DS, she loves to talk about things that make her feel happy (and he has clearly put a spring in her step!)

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MJMG2015 · 30/09/2020 10:45

It's sweet.

If they do end up 'going out', don't be alarmed by the age difference. My older boyfriend was FAR more respectful of my boundaries than the lads my own age!

CircleofWillis · 30/09/2020 10:50

Are you sure he is at school if he is 19? Most kids in the final year of school will be turning 18. Even the summer borns who started in the next year will only be 18 now.

HomeTheatreSystem · 30/09/2020 10:52

My eldest is 25 I’ve gotten really good at just keeping my face neutral and hiding my inward alarm ....

She tends to tell me a bit more than she should but I least I know where she is at

^ this 100%

Sparklesocks · 30/09/2020 10:54

Oh bless, she’s excited! It’s nice having a crush at that age. Just leave her to it, it’ll probably dial down anyway.

ooohbananas · 30/09/2020 10:55

@CircleofWillis yes...we are not in the U.K. and you can start school here at age 4,5 or 6. So I'm thinking he probably started school at age 5. My niece is 5.5 and has just started school in sept for example.

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magicstar1 · 30/09/2020 11:01

If he was a married 40 year old that she was working with, I’d say something. A19 year old...leave her be.

ScrapThatThen · 30/09/2020 11:10

Well, avoid teasing or being too serious, but I am sure it would be ok to say oh, he sounds nice, is he single? Or similar, in case she wants to talk to you about it.

Leimarel · 30/09/2020 11:10

Why do you think you should say anything? Leave her be, let her enjoy her crush. It may not come to anything, he might already have a girlfriend/boyfriend.

LindaEllen · 30/09/2020 11:13

Firstly, I thought this said meningitis, so this is GREAT news!

Leave her to it. We've all been there haven't we??

SpacePug · 30/09/2020 11:14

I had to Google mentionitis as I had no idea what this thread was about

Afibtomyboy · 30/09/2020 11:14

Why would you even ask?

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Afibtomyboy · 30/09/2020 11:14

You shut her down on the positive stuff

She’s not going to be inclined to open up about the negative stuff

sapnupuas · 30/09/2020 11:19

@LindaEllen

Firstly, I thought this said meningitis, so this is GREAT news!

Leave her to it. We've all been there haven't we??

This made me laugh.

PrivateD00r · 30/09/2020 11:20

@SpacePug

I had to Google mentionitis as I had no idea what this thread was about

I still don't understand what the thread is about!

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