My 'D'H has some general weirdness about food which I don't really understand, so this could be me being insensitive. He regularly wont ear meals with us, not sitting down with is at all, and often only sits at the table for fove minutes before going off to do his own stuff.
A couple of times over the last month I've felt really rejected by him not eating with us as a family. Usually I feed the kids before he gets in if I'm the one home as he tend's to be a bit of a stresshead at the dinner table. I think he finds things like eating noises/ spilled drinks much more infuriating than I do and will often sit there wincing and hitting which doesn't make for the most relaxed atmosphere..anyway my daughter is enjoying cooking more and wanted to make him a treat as her started back in the office, we went and brought ingredients and she cooled meat (big deal for her as she's an almost vegan) and she was excited to show him the pie she made for him (his fave flavour). She's infant school age. He wouldn't even try a mouthful that evening. Then this evening I made a full roast, did it all as he would like it, made his favourite veggies..He wouldn't even sit with us at the table. It just makes me feel really shit.
If we go round to friends/family to eat he is happy and relaxed at their dinner tables.
I tried to talk to him about it as it's something I've only ever known him and his brother to do regularly (have their own meals, not share family meals with their wives or children).
Even if he didn't eat just sitting at the table and chatting with a drink would feel a but more friendly/ family vibes.
So my AIBU is
YABU - it's totally standard not to share family or couple meal times.
YANBU- it is out of the ordinary that he won't share family meal times/ sit with you.
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AIBU?
To think he should be able to eat with us?
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NewtoHolland · 29/09/2020 22:33
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