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To not see the point in life?

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sunshinerays Mon 28-Sep-20 21:40:17

This has nothing to do with covid, I felt this way before covid and feel the same now.

I don't understand the point of life. It's repetitive BS. I try and do so many 'exciting' things and still feel it's a pile of crap most of the time.

I want to point out I'm not suicidal for a variety of reasons that I won't go into but I'm questioning how abnormal is it to feel this way or do lots of people feel this way but just pretend otherwise?

I have no reason to feel this way from the outside I have the 'perfect' life and people would be surprised if they knew how I feel.

Every day is - pointless (with the exception of the odd day here and there). Totally pointless in particular Monday to Friday I just see no enjoyment.

I feel like an entitled twat writing this post but have no one to talk to. I've tried counselling and it doesn't seem to fix the problem.

This is less about AIBU and more about reaching out to others I guess to see if anyone else is in similar situation 😓

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SpookyNoise Mon 28-Sep-20 21:43:59

I know what you mean. Work is thankless, home is repetitive. I feel like I just exist to work and I hate it.

KylieKangaroo Mon 28-Sep-20 21:44:07

I did feel like this at one point OP, just felt like I was existing and not really living. I don't think Covid has helped, obviously, and this feeling that we should be happy all the time and "making memories"

LaurieFairyCake Mon 28-Sep-20 21:45:52

Every person needs to find their own meaning in life

It doesn't sound like you've found much yet thanks

Fast90 Mon 28-Sep-20 21:46:26

You sound depressed OP. See your GP

MrsMomoa Mon 28-Sep-20 21:46:29

Nope, you're not the only one.

sunshinerays Mon 28-Sep-20 21:47:14

But what can we do to change it?

I've tried everything in my power to make life more find and exciting and I come back to the same conclusion every time - it's a load of crap.

I feel like it's affecting my work and home life too quite drastically.

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PretzelVanderspling Mon 28-Sep-20 21:48:31

You are not alone. Every day is the same monotonous crap.

sunshinerays Mon 28-Sep-20 21:48:48

@LaurieFairyCake I agree but what the hell do I do when I've tried EVERYTHING. I'm not passionate about anything.

I used to love my work and now I couldn't give a shit about it. And it's worse because I'm responsible for a lot of people and there's pressure in what I do making it harder to function in the role. It's horrible feeling x

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TheoriginalLEM Mon 28-Sep-20 21:49:15

I feel the same tbh. I am not suicidal, in fact im scared of dying but life seems pointless. Get up, go to work, get through the day. Home, dinner, shit tv bed. Too tired for anything else.

I try to appreciate the little things but fuck me, im bored

formerbabe Mon 28-Sep-20 21:49:27

I think there's two separate issues here...the wider question and your own personal feelings.

It's an age old philosophical question....what is the point of life? It's the reason we have religions I guess as people are desparate for an answer.

As for yourself, you say you get no enjoyment out of life? That sounds like it warrants a trip to the gp... perhaps you're depressed.

I see little point in life from a philosophical perspective but from a personal point of view, I still enjoy lots of things and see life as something we should make the best out of.

Hope that makes sense!

Babyroobs Mon 28-Sep-20 21:49:30

I feel exactly the same. One long cycle of monotonous chores and work interspersed with the odd short periods of excitement or happiness.

Phillycheesesteak Mon 28-Sep-20 21:49:56

I feel like I meet the same shitty people all the time lol

sunshinerays Mon 28-Sep-20 21:50:53

Yes, I mean even having to take the bins outside today and do stuff I'm like FFs...why???? I know it sounds stupid because everyone has to take the bins out but I'm just like - where is all this going? WHERE

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Facelikearustytractor Mon 28-Sep-20 21:51:16

YANBU. Life is graft and suffering. I am grateful that it isn't really terrible as I'm well aware of how rubbish life can be, but I don't really feel a great deal of joy. I think it is something you feel in hindsight and you don't realise at the time. I look back at boring moments from the past with real fondness sometimes. I know this is how I will feel about my current situation in the future. Life is constant work now, but I will miss my colleagues and my kids being young in the future, and this will probably seem like a good time in retrospect.

I am lacking purpose and drive. I felt good when I was at Uni and when I got the current job I'm in, but really struggle now. Having a purpose outside of things you have to do for you and your family to function is key I think.

TweeterandtheMonkeyman Mon 28-Sep-20 21:51:31

I know what you mean. Monday to Friday work/school feels like a drudge. I hate the feeling of the evenings getting darker too.
Exercise helps me.

sunshinerays Mon 28-Sep-20 21:51:39

The bins is a silly petty example I appreciate and makes me really sound like a twat lol but I just question everything even down to stupid little things like that

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Letsgobritishcaledonian Mon 28-Sep-20 21:52:38

Yep. Have felt like this for some years now, but more so because of Covid. It all seems pretty pointless. And I am someone, who like you, people might perceive from the outside to have a really good quality, enviable even, lifestyle...

sunshinerays Mon 28-Sep-20 21:52:48

&@TweeterandtheMonkeyman I'm big into excercises too but an hour after the endorphins wear off I'm back to the same old way of thinking

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Sarahandduck18 Mon 28-Sep-20 21:54:45

Try to find happiness in the small things- sensations- taste, smell, comfy clothes/ environment.

Love and be loved.

The most powerful thing I’ve read in ages is ‘happiness is something you do not something you are’.

Go for walks in nature.
Sit on a beach.
Have a cuddle.
Speak to a friend.
Do yoga/mindfulness.
Set goals and reward yourself.

Springtime003 Mon 28-Sep-20 21:55:01

I agree, I’m just on this treadmill!!!!! Round and round rinse and repeat... can’t fit everything in. I love seeing my children grow up but now I’m even feeling a bit guilty due to the state of the country.

sunshinerays Mon 28-Sep-20 21:55:29

I get really envious when I see people protesting about things or really passionate about work etc.

Because it makes me realise I don't seem to give much of a shit about anything and wish I did.

Aside from health and being financially stable I honestly have no appreciation for anything. It's a very sad place to be.

Especially when I know so many have it much worse.

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Happyspud Mon 28-Sep-20 21:55:41

I actually don't think it's 'normal' to feel like that. I only know because I recently felt like that and it was unusual for me (and frightening) so I went to the dr. and got help with medication and counselling. And feel like myself again. On the other side of that horrible meanless feeling I can see and feel the joy again and yeah, life is repetitive and boring/exhausting/mindnumbing at times. BUT no moment is the same and there's lots of lovely moments to make it all worthwhile. Simple things. Nothing that necessarily costs money. And if you feel the horrible feeling about whatever moments or days, you might as well feel content instead. Not sure if that makes sense.

sunshinerays Mon 28-Sep-20 21:56:49


Go for walks in nature.
Sit on a beach.
Have a cuddle.
Speak to a friend.
Do yoga/mindfulness.
Set goals and reward yourself.*

I do all these things and still don't give a shit. I enjoy them for the half hour they are happening and then back to square one

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Smallsteps88 Mon 28-Sep-20 21:56:52

Totally with you here OP.

In fact my teenage son said the same to me last week and I was so upset for him. I tried to tell him about all the wonderful things in life and about making his own fun but I don’t think I convinced him because I don’t believe it myself. I have no answers for you I’m afraid. I wish I did.

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