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It's about so much more than the fucking cupcake

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MyHeadOverfloweth Sun 20-Sep-20 20:44:48

NC but a regular poster

I went out today, by myself! A rare occurrence with 2 small children but nevertheless I went out and DH stayed at home with the kids

Having done a bit of shopping (all stuff for the kids and an impromptu purchase of an item of clothing for DH) I decided to treat myself to a cupcake from a posh bakery-it's one of those that is enormous and is literally baked diabetes but being a rare thing I thought I'd get one....I had visions of getting home, sitting down with a cuppa after the kids had gone to bed, and tucking in to the delicious cakey goodness
DH does not like cakes, he doesn't like cupcakes, but I text him anyway to check just in case but no, he did not want one.

Reader, I think you probably know what's coming next...

Kids are in bed, and downstairs I come to find a scene of crumby destruction in front of me. Half the cupcake has gone.
When questioned, he said he 'thought it was leftover because I thought you ate yours when you were out'
I said to him 'You don't even like cupcakes'
And do you know what the bastard said?
'That's why I only ate half'

THATS. WHY. I. ONLY. ATE. HALF.

I have now been accused of making a big deal about it, but in eating half that cupcake I almost feel like he has dropped another crumb on what is a growing pile of moudly yeasty smelly grot.

Sort of lighthearted....but also sort of not

AIBU?

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dudsville Sun 20-Sep-20 20:48:25

I know it's just a cupcake but in my house we would have inquired about a treat like that rather than digging in.

ForTheLoveOfCatFood Sun 20-Sep-20 20:48:35

LTB

ForeverRedSkinhead Sun 20-Sep-20 20:48:46

He owes you a cupcake.

ChelseaCat Sun 20-Sep-20 20:49:09

YANBU. That’s really shitty OP.

LTB.

dudsville Sun 20-Sep-20 20:49:26

Sorry, yanbu!

Pesimistic Sun 20-Sep-20 20:50:56

I'm feeling angry for you. Bloody swine

Dragongirl10 Sun 20-Sep-20 20:51:10

Under the patio for that...

VimFuego101 Sun 20-Sep-20 20:51:13

YANBU, that's shitty.

covetingthepreciousthings Sun 20-Sep-20 20:51:38

LTB

I'd have been livid, this is the exact thing my DH would have done as well, except he'd have probably eaten the entire thing.

ShebaShimmyShake Sun 20-Sep-20 20:52:11

I assume there's a back story.

motherofdxughters Sun 20-Sep-20 20:52:29

I'd be fuming too.

Lipz Sun 20-Sep-20 20:52:46

The fucker, I'm angry for you. I have to hide my treats in my underwear drawer blush

MyHeadOverfloweth Sun 20-Sep-20 20:53:59

Oh I should mention that when I said the whole day had been spent thinking about others i.e him and our children, and that the cupcake was literally this one thing that I wanted in a specific flavour he goes 'oh but you had lunch out aswell'

I bought lunch reader! Next time I'll remember to take my sarnies 😑

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SisyphusAndTheRockOfUntidiness Sun 20-Sep-20 20:55:22

So he ate half your cupcake, even though he doesn't like them. After saying he didn't want one. Or checking if it was yours.

He definitely needs to replace it. Like for like.

MyHeadOverfloweth Sun 20-Sep-20 20:55:48

@ShebaShimmyShake the back story is that he can be incredibly selfish and thoughtless, and as in many relationships unfortunately carries far less of the load than he should

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Sexnotgender Sun 20-Sep-20 20:56:03

If you need an alibi...

Tinkerbell456 Sun 20-Sep-20 20:56:15

Oh no, no one messes with my cupcake. ‘Tis an act of war and will be treated as such. Especially if vanilla.

SleepingStandingUp Sun 20-Sep-20 20:56:32

I'd be angry for so many reasons.

It's a waste of food to eat food you don't like. Why would you eat food you don't like?

He didn't eat half to share, he only ate half because he knew he didn't like it

That means he just ate it because he could not because he actually wanted it

Assuming he thought it was leftover (??) and knew he wouldn't eat it all because he dislikes it, why wouldn't he wait for you and eat it together?

It doesn't sound like he's even apologised properly

He clearly doesn't do enough sole childcare

BloggersBlog Sun 20-Sep-20 20:56:42

YABU to still call him "D" H. That is unforgivable.

Eating half the cupcake - slightly unforgivable too. But in time your rage may pass.

I would like a picture though of said cupcake to see whether it is worth LTB for

ToastyCrumpet Sun 20-Sep-20 20:57:25

Either he buys you a box of them tomorrow or you start digging that patio.

MyHeadOverfloweth Sun 20-Sep-20 20:57:25

@SisyphusAndTheRockOfUntidiness yes this is correct, absolutely correct

And actually thinking about it he does have previous for eating stuff wot don't belong to him

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Bearsbearsbears40 Sun 20-Sep-20 20:59:40

YANBU. Can you order yourself some posh cupcakes for home delivery on his credit card?

2020Me Sun 20-Sep-20 21:00:26

I don’t think you’re overreacting. When your life is hard and a bit of a slog it’s the things like looking forward to eating a treat that is what keeps you afloat.

D4rwin Sun 20-Sep-20 21:00:53

You need slabs; sand and a friend to help with the body. cake

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