Husband has called the police on our neighbours, have we done the right thing?

[Ninjamomma]

DH and I were outside collecting birthday presents from the car and heard our female neighbour from across the street screaming. I couldn't make out everything she was saying but she was historical and we definitely heard "leave me alone" and "I've done nothing wrong" and things being thrown about

I didn't know what to do but DH went straight over and knocked the door - female neighbour came to the door, cracked it open slightly, DH asked If she was OK, she she she was fine and shut the door.

We both didn't feel satisfied so DH has called the police. They are on their way and I'm sat here wondering if we have done the right thing

I'm worried we may have caused tension now with them however I couldn't live with myself If something untoward is going on and I had just turned a blind eye

Have we overstepped our mark?

[Ninjamomma]

Oh no historical 😂 autocorrect fail - hysterical. I Have no idea how to edit

[MilleniumHallsWalledGarden]

You've done the right thing imo. Sounds awful!

[pleaseletmesmile]

You did the right thing..............too many people turn a blind eye to other people's misery. I hope your neighbour is ok

[Merryoldgoat]

Nope. I’d have called the police and have done in similar situations once or twice.

[JalapenoDave]

You absolutely did the right thing OP. Well done

[MadCatLadee]

I think you think you did the responsible thing. Also, they wouldn't necessarily know it was you who called, could have been another neighbour.

[EarthSight]

He did the right thing.

[Ceilingfan]

You did the right thing, Ive done it myself a few times, every time I always wonder if I did the right thing.

[Ninjamomma]

We've left our windows open in the front room so we can keep an ear out incase it escalates before the police arrive. DH is all ready bless him to go and help. He's really worried too and not much tends to bother him, he always thinks I worry too much usually

They always have seemed so happy however we had assumed they had split as we haven't seen the female there for a couple of months or at least haven't noticed her coming and going

Now we are wondering if maybe they have split and it's an argument over that - I don't know but either way it sounded much more physical and worrying that a standard argument thats for sure

[BillywilliamV]

There was a girl murdered not far from us, I am haunted by the fact that people heard her crying for her mother at two in the morning and did nothing!
You have done exactly the right thing.

[Krazynights34]

It’s definitely the right thing to do. The police will determine if Theresa safety issue.

[Schoolisback1973]

You did the right thing! Same here. It happens to me in my previous place. I couldn’t bear it, the woman screams and heard furniture being moved about.
The police arrived and the woman was moved to a shelter. He eventually moved out a few months after that night.
It goes on often.. too ofent

[Krazynights34]

Theresa??? There’s I meant

[AnneLovesGilbert]

You did the right thing.

Not long after we moved in I heard a horrendous row outside one night. Female next door neighbour was screaming her husband was killing her, heard loads of smashing and banging. Immediately called the police who turned up quite quickly and others had already called.

As we got to know the other neighbours it turned out these two have been beating the shit out of each other for twenty years and people are often calling the police when things escalate. I’ve seen the police arrive several times since when I missed something but someone else heard it kicking off. I’d call again in a heartbeat if I was properly worried. I mean, it’s always awful to hear arguing but there are levels and I don’t want someone dying while I’m next door thinking someone else will make the call or that it’s not that bad. Always make the call.

[shinynewapple2020]

When I saw the title I thought it was another Covid one and I came on to tell you to mind your own business !

But in this case it absolutely is the right thing to do .

[Schoolisback1973]

*bare it

[vlnr77yac]

Not only are you right but if it happens again then call the police again. Sometimes it's the neighbours who can save a life. Nice hubby to knock on the door... we are each other's keepers.

[Ninjamomma]

Thank you, you've all really settled my mind, hopefully they will be here soon.

Some of your stories are really haunting, it goes on way to often as you say and I imagine there are others that turn a blind eye or hope someone else makes the call

[CoronaBollox]

This is what helped me.


You both have done the right thing.

[Deadringer]

i would have done the same.

[honeylulu]

"Bear it" is correct (unless you're getting naked).

And calling is the right thing to do. It could save someone's life.

[Ninjamomma]

Sorry to hear you've been in this situation but I'm so pleased to hear someone made the call for you

Two police cars have just arrived so we can close the windows and stop being nosey neighbours now

[Yankathebear]

You’ve done the right thing.
Your husband sounds like a good egg.

[Ninjamomma]

@honeylulu

"Bear it" is correct (unless you're getting naked).

And calling is the right thing to do. It could save someone's life.

Along with all my other terrible Grammar and awful English - the ironic thing is that I run my own marketing company and have to be so careful with anything that I publish. I'm known as the spelling police in my family but I'm passing over my baton after tonight

[AnneLovesGilbert]

I can’t understand people not calling. But DH hadn’t ever had to call the police before and when it all kicked off next door I came running down the stairs straight out the bath, conditioner-covered hair streaming and said call the police, call them right now. And he replied, do you know the non-emergency number? I had the bathroom window open and he hadn’t heard anything so I stood there screaching noooo, there’s a woman being murdered next door, call 999!!! I don’t know what he was worried about, maybe if you haven’t done it before you just worry about they’ll think? Sadly I’ve had several sets of horrible neighbours so it wasn’t my first time