Hi all, I need to preface this by saying I suffer with bad OCD which I'm currently in therapy for. Additionally, DH was caught doing some untoward things on the internet that have damaged my trust and we are currently attempting to work through it.
So DH privately tutors and was teaching a lesson online. About 5 minutes into the lesson a notification style noise went off, I have heard this type of noise before but couldn't put my finger on it. I have heard it in Teams calls and it's been someone else's phone/laptop.
The notification noise kept occurring until DH said 'is that your phone?' the kid said 'no it's yours' DH then said his phone wasn't in the room (which it wasn't) and the kid then said 'it's my mum's laptop so it's probably hers then'. The notification noise continued sporadically throughout the lesson. When I was in the study to get something I heard it go off and the screen was just a work paper.
For some reason my gut won't drop it. This happens a fair amount but to different severity levels. This time I am obsessed and cannot stop thinking about it. The problem is that before I have been correct.
I later realised that the noise is the Facebook Messenger tone 99% sure. DH doesn't use fb messenger any more (he has an account but it's not been touched in a year) but I've suddenly got it into my head that he could have created a fake account to speak to people.
There's a logical side to me that says: 1) it only went off during the call, not before or after 2) you saw the screen, nothing was there 3) why would he do that when he's tutoring he isn't unprofessional and 4) if he heard the notification the first few times he'd have panicked and clicked it off, rather than letting it continue for the whole hour.
Then the other side is telling me: 1) why was the noise so loud, it sounded like it came from our computer 2) what if he is just stupid.
Basically I am driving myself insane and feel like I'm about to crack. I can't seem to just let it go and understand that we may never get to the bottom of it.
I suppose I wonder if the notifications would be that loud if coming from the other person's computer?
Am I being stupid?
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alicedil87 · 16/09/2020 17:39
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