Probably get flamed on here but I need some help, partner and I have had some rough patches but what relationship doesn't?! We've been together for 9 years and no sign of a proposal, I asked him the other night if we could just get married and he said no it's something he wants to ask!!
Before we moved in together he kept making excuses until I said to him you either move in properly or you move your stuff out ( this was after years of him staying but not moving in etc ) he has said no to trying for another baby yet until we sort things out properly ( I'm getting older so worried my time will run out ) I've been asking him if we could move closer to my family for over two years it took about a year for him to put the house on the market and now we have buyers he is yet again putting excuses in the way - I have said I'm not sure the relationship will work out as he is in control of most things so I would rather not be on the mortgage at all as the mortgage we are on to me is just a debt in my name, he basically asked me to sign a deed of trust to protect his deposit ( he put the deposit down hundreds of thousand incase that's relevant ) and he is now saying that's it's too much of a rush, the buyers have asked if we would consider renting until we found somewhere as their mortgage offer will run out in 2 months and he had said no not happy yet hasn't even looked for somewhere for us to go so we are now basically going to lose the buyers. won't try for another baby yet we took over 3 years to conceive our little one incase it doesn't work out yet wants me to be on the mortgage aibu to think this really isn't what he wants and it really isn't going anywhere ?
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Youaremysunshine2010 · 15/09/2020 21:42
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