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To wish my friend wouldn't keep sending me photos from her holiday while we're stuck in?

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MacduffsMuff Sun 09-Aug-20 17:26:13

DH is having an operation on Thursday. We were told that we had to completely self-isolate as a family (5 of us) for two weeks prior to his operation (we are in a hot spot). That's fine - he needs the operation and we'll all be relieved for him to have it. Keeping a 17 year old, 13 year old and a 12 year old in hasn't exactly been a ball but they've done it and only a few more days to go.

Friend is on holiday at the moment. She sends me about 6/7 photos every single day with 'isn't this beautiful, bet you wish you were here/ha ha ha sorry you're stuck in and we're living the life of riley' etc etc. All of the same ilk. Now, to be clear, I am not in any way resentful of the fact they are away on holiday (it's a very different holiday from one we would choose anyway) but in normal circumstances, she would never send me a million photos daily, it's purely because we are isolating and can't go out. It's actually pissing me off now because we're all fed up and it just seems a bit ... mean. grin I messaged her back yesterday with a cheery 'looks fab - maybe save the rest until you get back since we've all got cabin fever, have a lovely time'. But today I've had 3 of the beach, two of their lunch and I'm expecting more. It's a bit shit isn't it?

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LunaNorth Sun 09-Aug-20 17:29:58

I’d send this 🖕🏻 to be honest.

reallifegetsintheway2 Sun 09-Aug-20 17:32:12

Self absorbed cow ! I would ignore her, make zero comments.

ScrapThatThen Sun 09-Aug-20 17:33:13

Definitely stop replying now.

rosesinmygarden Sun 09-Aug-20 17:35:09

Just ignore. Hopefully she'll get the message.

lyralalala Sun 09-Aug-20 17:35:37

She's not a friend. The fact she wouldn't normally send you photos, and has made comments about you being stuck in shows that she's just being downright nasty.

anothernewyear Sun 09-Aug-20 17:36:54

Don't open anymore of her messages.

GlassMarble Sun 09-Aug-20 17:36:55

If it’s WhatsApp - mute her.

If it’s Messenger - mute her.

If it’s text - hide alerts.

Or alternatively - tell her to fucking well stop before then doing the above.

malificent7 Sun 09-Aug-20 17:37:25

What a twat...perhaps block and / or ignore.

Inthebleakmidwinteriwouldsing Sun 09-Aug-20 17:37:27

Sorry but that’s horrible. Not least because, even if your DH’s procedure is a minor one, it’s still an operation. I don’t understand what she thinks is so funny about the situation. She doesn’t sound like much of a friend.

Gettingthereslowly2020 Sun 09-Aug-20 17:38:02

It would piss me off too OP. I can imagine the first picture she sent was a bit of a laugh "bet you wish you were here lol" but to carry on sending pictures is just plain rude and quite mean of her. Ignore her, don't even bother opening the messages - I'm guessing she's sending them through WhatsApp or Facebook messenger.

Figgygal Sun 09-Aug-20 17:38:21

Ignore her very insensitive of her

NewKittyMeow Sun 09-Aug-20 17:38:33

I think I’d temporarily block her, tbh.

InTheWings Sun 09-Aug-20 17:39:36

Don’t open / read them.

Or just say “I am the wrong audience for this at the moment and getting a bit sick of it. Surely you can enjoy yourself without rubbing it in?”

And if you get anything other than a proper apology, tell her to fuck off.

Really horrible thing to do.

Liveandforget Sun 09-Aug-20 17:40:04

If it's on whatsapp I would leave it as unread. She can then see the pics aren't being downloaded. Then delete the whole chat without opening it. She'll see her messages aren't being read at all. That's all she deserves tbh.

MacduffsMuff Sun 09-Aug-20 17:43:26

@Gettingthereslowly2020 that's just it - the first one was a bit of a laugh I suppose but it feels like she's just being unkind now. DH is in a lot of pain (she knows this) so it's hardly been a fun time. Many have it much worse of course and I know it's a bit petty bit ... just fuck off with the photos!

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JesusInTheCabbageVan Sun 09-Aug-20 17:49:14

I'd send her more or less exactly what you've just posted!

SimonJT Sun 09-Aug-20 17:50:56

You’re not being unreasonable at all.

My boyfriend had surgery on Tuesday, me and my son were on holiday (in the UK), I thought it would be nice to send him a couple of pics. I was obviously very very wrong and didn’t engage my brain.

He sent back a photo of himself in bed giving me the finger (although I’m genuinely happy he can now use his hand to extent of giving me the finger!) and a few more to rightly mock my lack of tact.

JesusInTheCabbageVan Sun 09-Aug-20 17:51:26

Btw I was on holiday last week and held off sending any photos to a friend because I knew they weren't in a position to go anywhere. I bought her something nice instead, which is what this cow should be doing.

MacduffsMuff Sun 09-Aug-20 17:51:48

I don't think she realises how it's coming across - she suffers really badly with anxiety and I'm the last person to make that worse for her but I really wish she'd stop!

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AntiHop Sun 09-Aug-20 17:53:11

I would be reevaluating this "friendship".

FancyARoot Sun 09-Aug-20 17:55:33

I bet she’s having a shit time and actually trying to convince herself it’s amazing, rather than you.

bigglewiggle Sun 09-Aug-20 17:55:59

This is so tone deaf and just bizarre. I would absolutely ignore her or flat out tell her to fuck off.

To be honest, stick that kind of thing on your social media if you want. Why would a friend want those kinds of photos directly anyway?

Chloemol Sun 09-Aug-20 17:57:53

Just text her back and tell her, Sod her anxiety. Just text her can you please stop sending these pictures, I have a very ill husband, as you know we are all isolating and you are now upsetting me with your goady behaviour

Unless you call her out she will continue. She is also no friend

FedUpofLockdown123 Sun 09-Aug-20 17:58:33

Just ignore her. I was really struggling during lockdown as a lone parent. My 3 year old is really hard work I was at my wit's end despesrate for a break and a friend kept texting me telling me her children were staying with her mum/their dad "haha" hmm. Every few days I'd get a text telling me she's child free and hating it (she usually loves it and if she did hate it then she wouldn't be sending them to her mum's to stay) hmm. I just ignored her but didn't stop her sending the messages. Some "friends" seem to enjoy rubbing their good fortune in your face when they know you are having a hard time.

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