Was having flirty text with an fwb. Our situation is we text few times during the week, meet up as friends which is sometimes platonic or sometimes stay over. We have done this for a few years. If we meet someone we are honest and maintain relationship as friends. It works. We have had a relationship in the past. It’s a convenient set up for us both, so Please don’t judge.
He has been a bit low mood due to stress in his life. I am worried he is depressed. Saw each other 4 weeks ago as friends and had food, chat and a hug. Not much intimacy due to lockdown, but a few chats on what we could of been doing.
Our normal arrangement would be to arrange a meet up on the day if we are free. It’s normally food, drink, stay over and leave midday. Like a date. We never do the drunk booty call. If it’s a friends thing, like cinema or event, we pre-arrange.
Thursday having a flirt via text. He was suggesting he has no sex drive as stressed. I joked and said you need to do something about this, he asked do I know anyone. Flirting about Finally becoming intimate again.
This afternoon flirty text. I got new underwear ad sent him pics. He said he did nothing last night. I said me neither and he said if he knew he would of come over. Again flirty that he may know someone who is naughty. I asked who, ad he said he would look around for me. Normally very direct.
Tonight he is seeing friends, not too far away from me. I suggested he come round to mine to stay after seeing friends. He replied staying with friends. That was it.
Feel a bit miffed, as normally he is more direct about meeting up. But I know he is going through some major issues and he doesn’t like the booty call idea, more come see me spend time as friends, cuddle on the sofa etc and then stays over. I think I am just in a grump as hormonal and really wanted to see him as it’s been a long lockdown. But is this a turn down as not interested, or he is busy and made plans to stay at friends so doesn’t want to change?
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Chairlove · 08/08/2020 19:56
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