Blocked by the youngest son

[moolady1977]

I've been at work all day finally get home and sit to down and receive a message from my youngest son ' I want some boots' no hi mum or anything just that message , I didn't reply straight away so he rang me and ever word out of his mouth was bad language so I said 'ds I'm your mum speak to me like it not like I'm one of your friends stop swearing at me ' he kept saying he hadn't swore . He then put the phone down on me and I received another message saying BLOCKED , he is 16 I don't want to hear that coming out of his mouth every word he speaks .
I spoke to his dad about it who said that's the way he is and how he speaks to everyone and just to let him get on with it . Am I so wrong in wanting him to at least from swear in every sentence he uses

[june2007]

I,d say he won,t get the boots unless he stops swearing.

[Purpleneonpinkunicorns]

I'd tell him that manners and respecting your mother is far more important than demanding and swearing for a pair of boots..

I would also because I'm pretty refuse to buy them a extra few days later for every day that he keeps you blocked.

[Purpleneonpinkunicorns]

I mean I'm petty not pretty

[katy1213]

Let him stay blocked. And keep your purse shut.

[PoodleMoth]

I'd be confiscating his phone and turning off the wifi so he can't use any devices until he sorts out his act!

[spacepoppers]

My 16 year old would be in for a shock if he EVER dared to speak to me like that. He would lose everything. Phone, Playstation, pocket money, freedom...the works. It's a slippery slope OP, once you accept behaviour like that then it's all over, they can do what they like. What's next, is he going to start pushing you around if he doesn't get his own way?

[EveryDayIsADuvetDay]

I'd let him get on with it - and maybe he should get a part time job and buy his own boots.
Also, block him from meals, getting laundry done.....

[billy1966]

Seriously?

I hope you are not paying for his phone?
Because if it was my provider and I was paying the bill and I was being cursed at, that phone account would be frozen.

If you are married to a man who is telling you to suck it up, it's hardly surprising.

I certainly wouldn't put up with it.

I wouldn't do a single thing for husband or son.

I'm very, very petty when it comes to being treated with respect.

[EveryDayIsADuvetDay]

And who is paying his mobile bill? Unless he pays his own, I'd block that as well.

[GennyCrabby]

Does he live with you or his dad?

[Dugsbollox]

His dad is in for a time of it if he accepts that is "just the way he is". Your son needs to learn some manners.

[Aquamarine1029]

If my now adult children had ever spoken to me like that their lives wouldn't have been worth living. Totally unacceptable and there would be massive consequences to be had.

[Rhubardandcustard]

Are you paying for his phone? I would cancel the contract ASAP if my son spoke to me like that. You are right here op basic manners he doesn’t get to speak to you like he trash talks with his friends.

Let him have his blocked tantrum and don’t engage until he apologises.

[missyB1]

No wonder he’s so rude and disrespectful if his dad thinks that’s perfectly acceptable!

No boots and ignore the blocking. In fact he gets nothing from you until he apologises and acknowledges how bloody wrong he is!

[Frannibananni]

I love you but you don’t get to treat me like that.
Honestly I would be pretty firm and just stop paying for everything.

[FiveToFour]

Let him get on with it?
Absolutely no way would he be left to " get on with it" in this house,it's unacceptable behaviour, both the swearing and the blocking.

[Shizzlestix]

I love you but you don’t get to treat me like that.
Honestly I would be pretty firm and just stop paying for everything.

Bang on.

[allthegoodusernameshavegone]

16 and rude, I’d say buy your own boots

[Mintjulia]

He’s 16 so he’s still dependent on you. I’d confiscate his phone and not buy him any boots.
Once he’s apologised and managed a couple of weeks without swearing I’d let him have his phone back.
If he wants new boots he needs to earn them - for school work or chores maybe.

[Tunnocks34]

Not a chance would I have ever been allowed to speak to my mum like that. Never.

Take his phone. No football boots.

[HouchinBawbags]

If you pay for his phone, call the provider and block it. Now!

[Vodkacranberryplease]

Awful! You can't let him go out into the world behaving like that! He will be unemployable and a total arse to women he dates/marries. Do him the biggest favour of his life and draw a line.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

"I spoke to his dad about it who said that's the way he is and how he speaks to everyone and just to let him get on with it "
Let him get on with it? In what way is that 'parenting'? Hid dad (I assume you are not together?) is clearly part of the problem and not part of the solution.

I'd be treating him like a two-year-old fixated on the word 'poohead'. He'd be on a metaphorical naughty step which he would be allowed to leave ONLY once his behaviour merited such a privilege. I may well physically block him on my phone just to make the point. And he wouldn't be getting boots, meals, laundry or anything else until I'd had an acceptable apology.

Are you the resident parent, or his father?

[Vodkacranberryplease]

@HouchinBawbags If you pay for his phone, call the provider and block it. Now!

Evil genius! But actually a great idea.

[Purpleartichoke]

His phone would be in my pocket.