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Can't believe this happened today, infact its still rattling round my head now!

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pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:18:26

I have problems with my bladder,and manage to wet myself numerious times a day!blush (its a fairly recent thing and I am still trying to come to turns with it!) I do not like going out on my own at the moment, just incase I have an accident. MIL suggested that we take DDs to an shopping outlet centre for the afternoon. I am not sure, and so tell her. She convinces me that I need to get out and about, and that there are loos there. So I go.

Look around the shops, not a big place, then I take youngest DD to playpark at centre, no sooner had she started playing when I wet myself! I was mortified, MIL had not yet got to park, so I tried ringing her on mobile(no answer). I then see her walking along with other DD, send youngest DD off to tell MIL what has happened and I needed to go home, I walk to car and sit in it and wait, and wait, and wait, and wait. Must have been at least 20 mins I waited in car for them to comehmm. Eventually MIL saunters over leaving DDs in park and suggests we go for a drink!!!!!shock. I am in tears by this stage, tell her no I dont want a drink, I just want to go home(a 45 min car journey away!) Her reply was - we all need a drink, we have not had one this afternoon, I'm going to get one for the girls! I sat there for another 10 mins while she goes off and buys us all drinks even though I had said I didnt want one!angry

I still cant believe this actually happened this afternoon, maybe I am being unreasonable to expect to go home pretty pronto after wetting myself, I know that if it had happened to someone else then I would quick to deny DDs a drink.

I also thought that maybe DD had not given MIL the message, but going home in car, MIL told me how discreet DD had been, and how grown up she had benn too. DDs were on a development day today so were not at school!

Sorry its so long, feel better already now rant is over!

MegaLegs Mon 01-Oct-07 21:20:54

Oh no you poor thing. Is the wetting a problem since you've had your babies?

MrsSeanSlater Mon 01-Oct-07 21:21:30

YANBU, MIL was very insensitive and must have seen how upset you were.
Can nothing be done about the bladder problem? Do you use those Tenalady pads? They might help.

2shoescreepingthroughblood Mon 01-Oct-07 21:22:04

oh what a ** poor you I would expect another woman to be more understanding.

glitterchick Mon 01-Oct-07 21:22:31

You poor thing. How awful. You're MIL is a thoughtless so and so. YANBU. Have you been to doc about bladder?

pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:22:50

No Megalegs, I had a minor op on my bladder several months ago, and since then have had real probs, so far this is the best my bladder has been, trouble is it never works when it should!sad

Tortington Mon 01-Oct-07 21:23:29

you need to see a doctor

were you wearing a tena? you should

Tortington Mon 01-Oct-07 21:23:53

post crossed - sorry

pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:24:19

MSS, I dont just use Tena Ladies but these nappy things too, and even then that sometimes is not enough! Oh and inco pads on chairs and car seats!

MegaLegs Mon 01-Oct-07 21:25:58

Is more surgery an option, it sounds awful, it's effecting your normal life.

pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:26:00

Yes I'm under a consultant, had catheter removed couple of weeks ago, think they were hoping for it all to settle down! No such luck, just fed up now, want it all over!

iheartdusty Mon 01-Oct-07 21:26:03

how horrible for you.

Maybe this is crass, if so I apologise, but would it help if you took spare undies and wipes with you, and could clean yourself up and not have to go home?
as I say, sorry if I am missing something which makes this a stupid idea.

iheartdusty Mon 01-Oct-07 21:27:07

now I see from more posts what kind of problem this is. I guess my words were pretty useless.

pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:28:05

I have no idea if more surgery is involved, Hope not! Hoping I may find something out this week! fingers crossed.

morningpaper Mon 01-Oct-07 21:28:22

I DO sympathise but it sounds as though you MIL is getting upset that you are staying at home with the children all the time - and she's made a special effort to take them out (a long drive) and so I can understand why she was pissed off

I think your MIL is right - you do need to get out and about and find some ways of living around this. Did you not have spare clothes etc with you?

It sounds HORRIFIC - are you having proper ongoing care?

pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:29:58

I did have spare clothes with me, but the thought of walking to car to get dry clothes, then walking to find toilets(in wet soggy clothes) and not knowing what state the toilets were going to be in, I just thought lets go home!

Monkeybar Mon 01-Oct-07 21:31:53

Poor you, I can't imagine how hard this must be to live with. Don't know if this is any use, but I remember seeing something on one of those morning hospital programmes about a lady who had a bladder issue and she was treated by having botox injections into the wall of her bladder, which helped her. SOrry if that is a useless comment.

morningpaper Mon 01-Oct-07 21:32:05

poor you

it sounds bloody awful

good luck !

pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:32:18

Also the park should have been our last stop! We had bribed the DDs that if they were good then we would go there before going home. DDs are old enough to understand that I have a problem at the mo, and they are not the sort of children to kick up a stink if they know things are not right!

xXxamyxXx Mon 01-Oct-07 21:32:47

you poor thing!shock

pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:33:31

botox was mentioned but that was when I still had the catheter fitted and I was able to wet myself then too!

hunkermunker Mon 01-Oct-07 21:35:10

PB, do you know when you're going to wee or does it just happen? Can you get a shewee?

I know that it's not a solution and it still means more al fresco weeing than is ideal, but at least you won't be wetting yourself sad

pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:40:21

I get about a 5 sec warning if I'm lucly.

Whats a shewee?

Pinkchampagne Mon 01-Oct-07 21:40:33

Oh blimey, bubble, you poor thing.sad I would have been upset too.

pinkbubble Mon 01-Oct-07 21:40:43


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