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My mum likened getting a tattoo to paedophilia

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yadayadayesokay Sat 01-Aug-20 16:35:14

So DP and DM were having a conversation about tattoos (he has a sleeve & chest tattoo, and mentioned that he is planning another soon)

She hates them and was making this absolutely clear. She thinks they’re disgusting (‘especially on women’) and very ‘look at me’.

She was giving all her unsolicited opinions and he shrugged and said ‘I don’t see the harm in them, they make people happy’ to which she replied ‘abusing children makes paedophiles happy’.

I don’t care what people’s opinions are on how tattoos look, but AIBU I’m thinking this is a ridiculous and offensive thing to say? I’m fuming.

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WinnieLo Sat 01-Aug-20 16:36:30

That is a really flawed argument! YOu know that.
She can argue, but she can't argue WELL

SonEtLumiere Sat 01-Aug-20 16:41:09

That’s a ridiculous thing to say. I think the only reply is “You seem to be scraping the bottom of the barrel there”.

Actually I also find tattoos horrible, and have yet to see one that I thought was an improvement to skin. But that is my opinion, which I usually keep to myself.

TheQueef Sat 01-Aug-20 16:42:21

Nuclear option arguer?

SomeWateryTart Sat 01-Aug-20 16:43:44

She sounds like a solid gold bellend. Sorry. I know she's your mum and all...

I can't stand people like this. All cats bums and judgement.

SomeWateryTart Sat 01-Aug-20 16:44:43

SonEtLumiere

That’s a ridiculous thing to say. I think the only reply is “You seem to be scraping the bottom of the barrel there”.

Actually I also find tattoos horrible, and have yet to see one that I thought was an improvement to skin. But that is my opinion, which I usually keep to myself.

Exactly! You don't have to like them. Many people don't! But you don't have to be a prat about it either.

Freixene Sat 01-Aug-20 16:45:18

‘Mum, are you implying there’s no harm in paedophilia??’

Aardvarkitsabloodyaardvark Sat 01-Aug-20 16:46:05

There is nothing wrong with tattoos, everyone 'normal' knows this.
Mil is obviously spoiling for an argument.
However I do think your OH her son should be directly questioning her about her comments especially as he has tatoos.

NoAdventureNoTime Sat 01-Aug-20 16:46:28

Getting tattoos done harms no-one, and well, the other clearly does. What a bizarre comparison

Aardvarkitsabloodyaardvark Sat 01-Aug-20 16:47:29

Maybe I've misunderstood. Is this your mother? I would be raging.

SillyCow6 Sat 01-Aug-20 16:49:29

Tattoos only hurt the person who wears them temporarily so long as they are done properly.
Paedophilia hurts children physically and mentally for the rest of their lives....bit of a daft comparison.

She sounds like she feels superior to your dp? I dont particularly like tattoos but plenty of my friends have them and I wouldnt look down on anyone for a tattoo. Although being completely Im not sure how Id react to facial tattoos initially

yadayadayesokay Sat 01-Aug-20 16:49:58

@TheQueef Yes this sounds accurate!

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MitziK Sat 01-Aug-20 16:50:40

yadayadayesokay

So DP and DM were having a conversation about tattoos (he has a sleeve & chest tattoo, and mentioned that he is planning another soon)

She hates them and was making this absolutely clear. She thinks they’re disgusting (‘especially on women’) and very ‘look at me’.

She was giving all her unsolicited opinions and he shrugged and said ‘I don’t see the harm in them, they make people happy’ to which she replied ‘abusing children makes paedophiles happy’.

I don’t care what people’s opinions are on how tattoos look, but AIBU I’m thinking this is a ridiculous and offensive thing to say? I’m fuming.

Being a dickhead obviously makes her happy.

It's not as though he's planning on pinning a 3 year old down and tattooing LOVE and HATE on its hands. And I'm sure she wouldn't be accusing merchant seamen and sailors on destroyers during WWII as being exactly the same as paedophiles because they happened to have the things.

Yes, she's deeply offensive and best avoided permanently. Up to you whether you do that, though.

yadayadayesokay Sat 01-Aug-20 16:50:42

@SomeWateryTart No problem, that’s how I feel about her too at this moment in time

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yadayadayesokay Sat 01-Aug-20 16:51:15

@Aardvarkitsabloodyaardvark Yes my mum unfortunately

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UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername Sat 01-Aug-20 16:51:48

Is there a paedophilia version of Godwin's Law?

motherheroic Sat 01-Aug-20 16:53:03

There's always someone who slips in how much they hate tattoos but stress how they're such a good person for not saying anything. Yawn.

SquashedSpring Sat 01-Aug-20 16:54:11

That's very, very odd thing to say.

Hairthrowaway Sat 01-Aug-20 16:55:19

I have always thought that one’s argument is inherently flawed if they have to resort to extreme examples like that

Hairthrowaway Sat 01-Aug-20 16:56:18

Strawman fallacy perhaps

iklboo Sat 01-Aug-20 16:58:12

That's so much of a straw man argument they're going to use it in the next remake of The Wicker Man.

Emeraldshamrock Sat 01-Aug-20 17:02:38

That was a loser low blow comment. I hope she is planning to apologise for her irrational outburst.

formerbabe Sat 01-Aug-20 17:02:58

That's crazy. I detest tattoos...and I think they look disgusting and cheap, especially on women. However, I'm aware that's my opinion and that other people's tattoos aren't causing any harm to anyone.

Her argument doesn't make her sound very bright

Dreeple Sat 01-Aug-20 17:06:25

Is she sure abusing children makes paedophiles happy?

Only paedophiles would know that for certain.

SonEtLumiere Sat 01-Aug-20 17:07:57

I think my reply would be “Are you saying that seeing tattoos is as damaging to your psyche as being the victim of a paedophile’s actions?”. Or “Does doing the things you enjoy also make you like a paedophile?”

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