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len1234 Sun 19-Jul-20 20:10:16

I just want to know why people are so against toddler boys or just boys in general having long hair?? I always thought it was cute but I've heard so many rude comments about it lately. It seems to really bother people?

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MissBaskinIfYoureNasty Sun 19-Jul-20 20:15:20

Really don't know. My toddler has shoulder length curls and so many people have made snotty comments. Most negative comments seem to come from insecure blokey types who are concerned he may "turn gay" or "look like a girl" or people who claim its messy and yet the same hair isn't messy on a girl..? 🙄
Water off a ducks back. It's beautiful hair and a colour that plenty of people pay a fortune to fake.

SimonJT Sun 19-Jul-20 20:16:28

Are they? That is something I have genuinely never heard and my son has long hair.

MinesAPintOfTea Sun 19-Jul-20 20:17:26

DH is giving DS a hard time about enjoying his hair growing longer. I've told him to stop it and that DS can have his hair how he likes so long as it's clean and combed.

DelurkingAJ Sun 19-Jul-20 20:19:10

Couldn’t care less so long as it’s clean and combed. If I’d had DDs I would have kept it short as I’d like the DC to be able to look after their own hair. Horses for courses so long as it’s cared for.

LaChatte Sun 19-Jul-20 20:19:19

DS had negative comments about it all his childhood and kept being told he looked like a girl (why exactly that would be a bad thing is beyond me), he rode it out and now has waist length blonde hair (he's 18). He looks like something out of Lord of the Rings. It's lovely.

Somethingorotherorother Sun 19-Jul-20 20:19:37

All the boys in our family have shoulder length hair and I've never heard anyone say anything about it.

len1234 Sun 19-Jul-20 20:20:20

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty Yes! The "He looks like a girl!" When he dresses in stereotypical boy clothes at the moment anyway. I really don't understand it.

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dementedpixie Sun 19-Jul-20 20:20:43

My ds (13) currently has shoulder length wavy hair with fringe down to his chin. Its my hairdresser that trims it rather than a barber - they just want to chop it all off

Bunnymumy Sun 19-Jul-20 20:22:11

I have a friend euth 4 young sons and they all have long hair (between chin and shoulders). They are adorable.

I suppose it depends if they suit it or not though.

I've always liked longer hair on blokes too though so maybe I'm bias. I grew up in the time of the skater boy lol.

Namechangeymcnamechange11 Sun 19-Jul-20 20:22:32

I hear you OP. My 2.5 year old is currently sporting long blonde curls due to lockdown! DH is counting the days until it's cut sad

DominaShantotto Sun 19-Jul-20 20:22:37

When it's trailing all over their face so they can't see what they're doing at school - I'll think tsky thoughts for either boys or girls. Other than that - I couldn't care.

I get annoyed when school uniform rules say girls need to tie long hair back but no one enforces the same for boys.

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Th1me Sun 19-Jul-20 20:23:33

My 15 year old hasn’t had his cut for months - apparently we are aiming for a man bun! In fairness he had lovely long hair that he only got cut when he was 8. I’m looking forward to the return of his lovely long hair.

WendyHoused Sun 19-Jul-20 20:24:29

They can boil their heads.

Itsarattrap Sun 19-Jul-20 20:25:53

Are they? Ours had long hair until he decided he wanted a change at about 8 years old. Can honestly say no-one ever commented, negatively or otherwise.
That was a decade ago, things may have changed of course. What a strange thing for people to get worked up about, what someone else’s hair is like.

len1234 Sun 19-Jul-20 20:26:33

@DominaShantotto I do agree with them having it tied back at school if that is the rule for girls. Especially to prevent head lice.

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NotExactlyMrsCurrentAffairs Sun 19-Jul-20 20:31:36

My 8yo DS has gorgeous long hair and has honestly, never had a negative comment about his hair, lots of positive comments though

SirSamuelVimesBlackboardMonito Sun 19-Jul-20 20:33:05

It's quite class dependent, I've found. Never saw so many boys with tumbling curls as when I worked in a private boarding prep school. They all looked gorgeous too.

DramaAlpaca Sun 19-Jul-20 20:37:21

I always kept my boys' hair very short as children because that's how I liked it. As teens they grew it a bit, but just long enough to be fashionable.

Now in their 20s the older ones keep theirs short and neat, but the youngest has long hair. He gets a trim once a year but otherwise leaves it be & it's fabulous, thick & wavy. It really suits him.

SedentaryCat Sun 19-Jul-20 20:52:25

DS has hair that's about the same length as your DS @NotExactlyMrsCurrentAffairs, and it's much thicker and glossier than mine ever has been!

I think he probably needs a little bit of a trim in it - he's off to secondary school in September and it won't hurt to tidy it up a bit. But whenever I mention it I think he hears the words 'short back and sides'. smile

MinesAPintOfTea Sun 19-Jul-20 20:54:47

dramalama you weren't faced with a very thickly/wriggly primary aged child in a pandemic though. Normally to get DS's hair cut I have to hold him still throughout it (with his agreement). That means both of us being close to a third person doing the cutting. He's also not been to school for 4 months, and won't for at least 1.5 more.

If he'd rather have long hair in these conditions, that makes my life less stressful. He also looks cute.

JanewaysBun Sun 19-Jul-20 20:56:23

If DS Had gorgeous curls I would never cut it!

FishOnPillows Sun 19-Jul-20 21:04:57

10yo DS has waist-length hair. It’s absolutely gorgeous and I’m hugely jealous!
He’s had long hair all his life and I don’t think we’ve ever had any negative comments about it. A surprising number of people mistake him for a girl though - he just laughs, tells them he’s a boy, then they usually get a bit embarrassed and apologise.
He ties it back for school so it doesn’t get in the way. Plus minimises risk of lice! He even sometimes gets me to braids it, like Legolas 😅
His father has long hair though, so he’s grown up knowing other men with long hair.

Marcipex Sun 19-Jul-20 21:05:23

I once referred to a 10 year old with very long hair and a pink flowered jacket (and purple trousers) as ‘she’.
HIS mother absolutely bit my head off. I couldn’t get a word in while she ranted at me. The child just looked blank.
I don’t know how I was supposed to know.

I guess if it’s obvious, it’s easier for us mugs.

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