Name changed as I will likely get flamed.
DH and I have a very good household income, I am not denying that. DH is in a sector which pays well and thankfully has not seen a covid-related downturn. (I'm public sector but in a good job).
He was due a payrise in April but they deferred them due to covid, very understandable. As it happens their sector has been largely unhit and so payrises are now being discussed. DH has been offered a very large payrise as during COVID he did a really big piece of work which has saved the company hundreds of thousands over the next few years (company has a multimillion pound turn over) - he came up with the idea, in his own time did a demo to show it could work and then supported his team to get it up and running. He definitely deserves the payrise.
BUT
if he takes it it, it means we will no longer be eligible for DSs 30 free hours and DD won't get hers next year when she becomes eligible. After tax, the payrise will not cover the nursery expenses of the 2 children and we will therefore be worse off.
This seems like absolute madness! But it will cost us around £30k in 3 years, and the payrise will be just shy of that over than time period (after tax).
I've suggested to DH that he counter offers for a LOWER rise, which will put him just below the threshold for the free hours. This is still a good rise.
The alternative is to ask for a rise that will cover the loss of the 30 free hours, but this is quite a bit more, taking in to consideration tax.
It seems like a totally bonkers situation to be in (5 years ago we were scraping money together to pay the bills!) but can anyone else an issue with rejecting a payrise?
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to think it's bonkers but also not to turn down this pay rise
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fortunatefamiliar · 16/07/2020 13:07
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