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To not be bothered about DC friends calling me by my first name when they come over?

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hoohaaa Mon 13-Jul-20 18:18:43

AIBU to think this and what do your DC’s friends call you? DH heard the friends today and he says he thinks they are “rude” and it should be “Mrs” or “Mr. “ WIBU?

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gotothecooler Mon 13-Jul-20 18:20:18

My D.C. friends have always been welcome here. No formality necessary.

CaptainMyCaptain Mon 13-Jul-20 18:21:04

I think that is normal these days. I used to call my Mum's friends Aunty [name] but my daughter's friends called me by my first name and she is grown up with her own teenagers now.

Waxonwaxoff0 Mon 13-Jul-20 18:21:53

YANBU, I always called my friends parents by their first name and vice versa. I would never expect my DS's friends to address me as "Miss", I'm not their teacher.

PersonaNonGarter Mon 13-Jul-20 18:21:56

I think your DH is bizarre. Does he have control issues generally?

Disfordarkchocolate Mon 13-Jul-20 18:22:19

It wouldn't bother me. I don't even expect my nieces and nephews to call me Auntie Dis

LockdownLump Mon 13-Jul-20 18:22:23

Totally agree. It would make me feel uncomfortable being called Mrs LockdownLump

Ellisandra Mon 13-Jul-20 18:23:13

Is your husband 73?
My stepsons are in their 20s, and their friends always called my husband by his name.

hoohaaa Mon 13-Jul-20 18:24:36

He said he’s never heard anything like it in his life and “not in my house they don’t.” confused

He can be a bit off-key at times, but he means well. Sometimes I wonder if it’s me.

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Ellisandra Mon 13-Jul-20 18:24:51

I took a child out yesterday - she said a lovely, “thank you for having me, Ellis” - really genuine. I’ll take that over a stiff “thank you MrsE” from a child who has just been taught to say a formal thank you.

JacobReesMogadishu Mon 13-Jul-20 18:25:15

No, it’s him.

Ellisandra Mon 13-Jul-20 18:26:05

I’d tell him to bigger off with his, “not in my house.” It’s up to you what you’re called. He’s old fashioned but entitled to be Mr Hoo - but he’s not entitled to choose for you.

chunkyrun Mon 13-Jul-20 18:26:11

It's him I've never heard this except for movies

HandsOffMyRights Mon 13-Jul-20 18:26:43


DramaAlpaca Mon 13-Jul-20 18:27:26

There's never been any formality in our house and my DC are in their 20s. I just introduce myself with my first name and that's what all their friends call me. I like it that way.

lazylinguist Mon 13-Jul-20 18:27:38

It's him, not you! I'm used to being called Mrs Lazylinguist by kids at work, as I'm a teacher, but my dc's friends call me by my first name (even though I've taught some of them).

Stompythedinosaur Mon 13-Jul-20 18:28:09

I remember calling friend's parents Mr and Mrs whatever when I was a kid. I think it is the norm to use first names now. It doesn't bother me at all.

Cociabutter Mon 13-Jul-20 18:28:24

Crikey yes he's overbearing

Rubyupbeat Mon 13-Jul-20 18:28:58

Absolutely archaic

Redwinestillfine Mon 13-Jul-20 18:29:59

What else are they supposed to call you? Is he from the UK op ( is it a culture thing?). Even when I was a kid I think I called my close friends Mums by their actual names ( or else 'so and SO's mum')..

5plus3 Mon 13-Jul-20 18:30:35

Your DH is being ridiculous. It's the 21st century! My DCs friends see my house as a second home and are welcome to treat it as such. They call me by first name and DP by the nickname DC use. The only person who calls me Mrs 5plus3 is the headteacher!

ilovepixie Mon 13-Jul-20 18:31:11

When I was a child I had to call my friends parents and parents friends Mr or Mrs but I'm 52.

Minty82 Mon 13-Jul-20 18:31:44

My DC’s friends call me “DC’s Mummy”, even to my face, which I kind of love! They call me by my first name when I tell them what it is though. Mrs surname was starting to feel old fashioned even when I was small.

purpleme12 Mon 13-Jul-20 18:31:50

Such a strange thread. Of course you would be called by your first name

user1456324865563 Mon 13-Jul-20 18:33:58

"His" house? Are you his lodger then?

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