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Friends car crash dispute

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MusicTeacherSussex Mon 13-Jul-20 08:19:34

Names obviously fake.

Alice was driving her car with Jenny as a passenger, and they had a crash, the fault of another driver.

Alice's shoulder, already damaged, got worse so she applied for the forms to fill out for compensation. She encouraged Jenny to do the same.

Jenny filled hers out and received 600. Alice decided not to bother, even though she would have been entitled to much much more.

Alice is now demanding that Jenny gives her half of the sum. Jenny has said no, and that she didn't agree to split the money. Alice is also demanding that Jenny puts the sum towards a holiday for them both. Jenny is offering to help Alice complete her claim form. I am offering to help Alice complete her claim form.

I think Alice is being rude and cannot believe she asked. Jenny is now considering giving her half to preserve their friendship. I think it sounds like bullying to me, and I think Alice should leave her alone and fill out her own claim.

Who is being unreasonable here.

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DeltaFlyer Mon 13-Jul-20 08:20:58

Alice is the unreasonable one.

IKEA888 Mon 13-Jul-20 08:22:26

She couldn't be arsed and is now regretting it and being even more of an arse.
Ditch Alice

bringbacksideburns Mon 13-Jul-20 08:23:06


And why the hell did she not fill in her claim form at the same time she encouraged her friend to?
She should wait to see what happens with her claim first and leave the other woman alone.

MusicTeacherSussex Mon 13-Jul-20 08:32:46

Alice couldn't be bothered! Which is extreme/ I'd be very bothered about getting some money, likely to be several thousands for Alice due to her injury.

I think Alice is embarassing herself

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BrightYellowDaffodil Mon 13-Jul-20 08:37:04

Alice is an arse.

The money Jenny received is compensation for her - Jenny’s - injuries. Alice has no right, moral or otherwise, over it and she’s behaving completely unreasonably.

Belledan1 Mon 13-Jul-20 08:38:24

How long was the accident? You have 3 years to claim.

Iwannabesuewhenigrowup Mon 13-Jul-20 08:38:44

Alice can make her own claim up to 3 years after the incident. That's what she should do.

BubblesThaDragoon Mon 13-Jul-20 08:40:37

Alice is being a dick. The exact same thing happened with me and a friend. The friend couldn’t be bothered filling in the form - don’t think it would have crossed her mind to ask me for half of my compensation ?!

If she wants compensation she needs to claim her own. How bizarre.

PassingByAndThoughtIdDropIn Mon 13-Jul-20 08:40:45

Alice is wildly unreasonable. Jenny should stick to her guns.

DameFanny Mon 13-Jul-20 08:40:58

Alice is BU. Alice is being lazy, and trying to guilt a friend out of cash. Is Alice that good a friend?

LakieLady Mon 13-Jul-20 08:41:41

Alice is BU.

However, if she's making her own claim, maybe Jenny can strike a deal that Alice's compensation is split both ways, too. She'd be quids in then.

TimeWastingButFun Mon 13-Jul-20 08:43:06

Alice. Jenny's compensation is hers. Alice decided she didn't want compensation.

MusicTeacherSussex Mon 13-Jul-20 08:43:07

It was only last year! Alice is clearly more interested in money than staying friends with Jenny
Alice doesn't really have any other friends and I'm starting to see why!

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Soubriquet Mon 13-Jul-20 08:43:10

Alice is being unreasonable

She needs to fill her own form in if she wants money

Bringmewineandcake Mon 13-Jul-20 08:43:10

Alice has got about 6 years from the accident date to put in her own claim for injury. She can deal directly with the other driver's insurance company and they can provide physio alongside any compensation, so long as they have accepted fault for the accident.
The only thing that makes it slightly more complicated is that her injury is an exacerbation of a pre-existing problem. The outcome she gets will depend on how much worse the accident has made her pre-existing problem.
But she does need to stop being an idiot to her friend who did bother to claim.

Starbuggy Mon 13-Jul-20 08:44:02

Of course Alice is unreasonable. She needs to get bothered to fill in her own claim

Bringmewineandcake Mon 13-Jul-20 08:46:02

3 years, sorry

Sunnydayshereatlast Mon 13-Jul-20 08:48:48

Who the fuck is Alice??

AlwaysCheddar Mon 13-Jul-20 08:48:50

Alice is out of order.

Soubriquet Mon 13-Jul-20 08:49:15


Who the fuck is Alice??


Oh that brings back memories

fairydustandpixies Mon 13-Jul-20 08:50:02

I was in that situation once as a passenger. I was off work for weeks with injuries. The driver begged me not to claim as it was his company car and it wouldn't look good on him as he'd just started a new job and got the car.

I divorced him a year later...!!

Bloody wish I'd claimed now...!

MintyMabel Mon 13-Jul-20 08:54:54

You really have to ask?

MusicTeacherSussex Mon 13-Jul-20 08:55:40

@fairydustandpixies oh lord that is awful... glad you're rid of him though

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MusicTeacherSussex Mon 13-Jul-20 08:57:41

@mintymabel this is to reassure Jenny. I'm sure I'm right but she is doubting herself due to Alice's constant bringing it up

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