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AIBU?

To let DS carry on and get food poisoning so he learns a lesson

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Learnthelesson · 12/07/2020 20:30

DS (nearly 20) is, quite frankly a know it all.

He speaks to me as though I’m thick, argues black is white and is the most condescending, high and mighty little knob at times.

He’s got a habit of not being around at mealtimes or just not eating when our meal times are ready. That’s fine, I usually plate it up and he eats it later.

Last night I made fajitas and beef jalapeño kebabs on skewers. He was out so came home and reheated the plate of food in the microwave and then took it up to his room. He didn’t eat any of it (gaming) and so left it in his warmish bedroom all night. He brought it downstairs this morning and put it in the fridge with a view to reheat again for tea.

I’ve told him that it can’t be reheated again - yes it can he said - you can reheat food twice. He argued black and blue and forbade me to throw it from the fridge. He’s just come downstairs to heat it up and now and I told him that he’s being silly but if he insists at least to make sure he heats it piping hot.

No, I don’t like it too hot as I then can’t eat it. Cue me telling him he’s at risk of food poisoning again. ‘I know - I did biology in school and anyway if you put the food in the fridge it kills the bacteria’. I tried to explain that all that does is suspend the bacteria and he just laughs in my face saying I’m talking shit.

I’ve let the fucker take it back up to his room hopefully sufficiently lukewarm.

Why are some kids utter assholes? AIBU to hope In a small way he gets the raging shits over the next 24 hours to teach him a Lesson?

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BilboBercow · 12/07/2020 20:32

He's an adult. Let him find out the hard way if he thinks he knows everything.

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BellyMama · 12/07/2020 20:33

Nope not unreasonable, you’re right, he’s wrong and you’re also pretty amusing. Mum goals 😂

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Aquamarine1029 · 12/07/2020 20:33

He argued black and blue and forbade me to throw it from the fridge.

I think he needs reminding who makes the rules in your home. I will throw out anything I damn well please from my refrigerator. If he can't treat you with respect he should find somewhere else to live.

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Andwoooshtheyweregone · 12/07/2020 20:34

You’ve got a bigger problem than the food poising, which He may not even get therefore cementing further to him that he is right. Why do you stand for him talking to you like that? Maybe stop cooking for him?

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SunbathingDragon · 12/07/2020 20:35

I’d stop doing a plate of food for him altogether for that backchat.

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Louise91417 · 12/07/2020 20:36

Well you did warn him..the badness in me would secretly be wishing a mild (or not so) dose of food poisoningGrin

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Splitsunrise · 12/07/2020 20:37

Why do you let him get away with talking to you like this? Was he able to do this as a child too?

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Sojo88 · 12/07/2020 20:38

It would teach him! But to be honest I bet it would end up that he won't even get food poisoning anyway, which would just make him believe he was right for next time! The food does sound dodgy though Confused

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IHaveBrilloHair · 12/07/2020 20:38

Yanbu.
Leave him and his festering food alone Grin

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whiplashy · 12/07/2020 20:38

you know he’ll be one of those lucky ones that never gets food poisoning! Sod’s law

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slipperywhensparticus · 12/07/2020 20:40

Eat if your home if not home you don't get cooked for?

I would have basted it with an ex lax reduction for that attitude

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BertieBotts · 12/07/2020 20:40

It's very unlikely he'll get food poisoning! The way some people on MN go on you would think it was an absolute certainty, it's just a bit of a higher chance. It's still more likely that he won't.

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BertieBotts · 12/07/2020 20:41

Ha ha yes - should have put laxatives on it and then pretended he'd got food poisoning :o

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Menomosso · 12/07/2020 20:41
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Mydogisthebestest · 12/07/2020 20:41

I would just detach and let him eat it. I’d also stop cooking for him going forward.

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FrugiFan · 12/07/2020 20:41

I hope he does get food poisoning but of course sods law says he won't and by the sounds of it he will rub it in your face and say "I told you it was fine to reheat twice".

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Dixiechickonhols · 12/07/2020 20:42

I wouldn’t want it in my fridge. He can do what he wants in his own flat but it’s your house and fridge. I wouldn’t want it near my food. I’m relaxed on dates, reheat stuff once but it’s just basic common sense.

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ohfourfoxache · 12/07/2020 20:43

If he doesn’t get food poisoning then you need to lace his next meal with senokot and suggest it was a delayed reaction Grin

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Soubriquet · 12/07/2020 20:43

Yanbu to wish he would

He probably won’t get it though and will be completely insufferable tomorrow

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Bagelsandbrie · 12/07/2020 20:43

Wow. Let the fucker move out. Make him move out. How bloody rude is he?!

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Learnthelesson · 12/07/2020 20:43

I don’t really recall him being a particularly difficult child but definitely became a difficult teen - very bright, very self assured and holds quite a high opinion of his perceived intelligence.

He knows everything, there’s no telling him anything and to be honest he’s always been very fortunate with school, a great apprenticeship, drives a lovely car, lives here rent free although to be fair he offers to pay his way but we’ve told him to save hard so he can eventually get is own place (he saves nearly 1k a month).

Just a shame he can be such a know it all - probably time he got his own place so he can make all these mistakes without me even knowing. He’ll soon start learning about food hygiene once he’s spent 24 hours with his head and arse in a bowl.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 12/07/2020 20:43

Isn’t it time he moved out?

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FrugiFan · 12/07/2020 20:43

@Mydogisthebestest

I would just detach and let him eat it. I’d also stop cooking for him going forward.

Oh yes and I agree with this too.
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titchy · 12/07/2020 20:44

The chances are it'll be absolutely fine.

His attitude on the other hand - get some respect woman. Would you stand for any other man giving you that sort of shit?

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QuestionableMouse · 12/07/2020 20:45

If I'd spoken to my mum like that, I'd have been looking for somewhere else to live.

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