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To feel like the only person following the f***ing rules??!!

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Stressingismyhobby Fri 10-Jul-20 23:28:09

I know the social distancing rules are contradictory, confusing and mostly bollocks but I don't think I'm above them and follow them as closely as possible.

But hardly anyone else I know does. I've just seen a picture of a friend wearing a mask in a go to her friend's house with a load of other friends. All pictured together huddled on the sofa.

A family member keeps posting pics on FB with her kids gathered with all their friends.

And I've been invited to a party in a week's time at someone's house with lots of other people.

Videos of kids running to hug both their grandparents (my kids would love to do that!)

We met with some friends outside a week or two ago who also (without us knowing) invited other people so our group was bigger than 6.

I had to say no to giving someone a lift in my car the other day.

And so it goes on.

I feel like I'm the boring, goody two shoes who's always having to decline invites or say things like "I'm not really sure we're supposed to do that yet" etc only to be met with sighs or rolled eyes. I'm constantly being put in situations that make me feel uncomfortable. I'm made to feel like the bloody fun police who is making live difficult for everyone!

Anybody else feel like this???

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NameChange84 Fri 10-Jul-20 23:28:50


I’m sick of it.

Destroyedpeople Fri 10-Jul-20 23:31:13

It's been nearly four months....
Are there really still.people going on about 'the rules'?

Lostnameperson Fri 10-Jul-20 23:31:24

Yes! I just posted about a photo of friends huddled together at the pub.

sparkli Fri 10-Jul-20 23:32:53

How old are your DC? I'm in Scotland and children under 11 don't have to social distance anymore.

nocoolnamesleft Fri 10-Jul-20 23:33:34

And the real problem is that I can follow the rules as closely as humanly possible (and I do) but so much of my risk is down to the selfish other people who aren't.

Stressingismyhobby Fri 10-Jul-20 23:33:59

@Destroyedpeople so you haven't been following them?

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TheMurk Fri 10-Jul-20 23:34:10

They aren’t rules. They never have been. They are guidelines. Government advice.

And most people started thinking for themselves weeks ago.

AntennaReborn Fri 10-Jul-20 23:34:13

OP, we're the same as you but it looks like we're in the minority

Stressingismyhobby Fri 10-Jul-20 23:34:34

@sparkli 10 and 6, I'm in England.

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Lostnameperson Fri 10-Jul-20 23:35:31

And most people started thinking for themselves weeks ago

Yeah, I think they did that in Florida and Texas too🤔🤔

Stressingismyhobby Fri 10-Jul-20 23:35:50

@TheMurk ok, yes, guidelines - but as much as I COMPLETELY understand a lot of the rules are senseless, who am I to decide I am above them?

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shrill Fri 10-Jul-20 23:36:57

You are not alone

namechangetheworld Fri 10-Jul-20 23:39:02

I agree OP, but the Mumsnet masses will be along soon to bleat about how you should keep your beak out and stop being such a goody two shoes for following actual Government advice.

Destroyedpeople Fri 10-Jul-20 23:39:20

Yes I have stayed indoors for weeks thank you trying to be a responsible person.
Don't try and tell me what I have or haven't done
I am just sick of hearing about 'the roolz' and who has broken them in the complainant's vicinity....

Stressingismyhobby Fri 10-Jul-20 23:39:53

Also, I know of people who drink and drive because they "think for themselves" and think they can judge how much alcohol they can tolerate before they're unfit to drive...

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Destroyedpeople Fri 10-Jul-20 23:40:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

WilheldivaHater Fri 10-Jul-20 23:40:21

I feel exactly the same as you OP!

I'm getting requests from in laws to take my dd out for the day with them, or to look after one of their kids all day (including having them in the car) like everything is back to normal.

TheMurk Fri 10-Jul-20 23:40:24

I think it’s distressing and sad how many people have developed warped thinking around this lockdown to the point that they are not leaving their house for months on end.

SpinningWheelOfFortune Fri 10-Jul-20 23:40:30

I've not followed the 'rules' to the letter, no. But I've been very sensible, I wash my hands lots, I don't go around licking things or kissing/breathing on people. I have however been to my friends house where there were 3 of us all from (gasp!) different households, but again, we were sensible and used common sense.
I also made my own decision regarding the guidelines, and let DD hug her 92 year old great aunt who is very ill and has been told she has, at best, months to live.

NC4Now Fri 10-Jul-20 23:40:55

I’m trying my best but it’s hard. I was out last weekend and as the night wore on it got harder. I’ve been out tonight too, but made my excuses at 10pm before everyone started getting silly.
I think people struggle to adapt. There are perfectly nice times to be had which are safe and within guidance. We can’t just go back to how it was pre-Covid. The sooner we adjust to socialising safely, the better. I’m tired of hearing ‘but for my mental health i need to.’ Fine. Wash your hands and sit apart from me and we’re all good.

NervousInYorkshire Fri 10-Jul-20 23:41:09

I'm in the shielding group and still sticking to the guidance, if that helps you feel less alone OP?

TheMurk Fri 10-Jul-20 23:41:10

@Stressingismyhobby what are you on about? What has this got to do with drunk driving?

Stressingismyhobby Fri 10-Jul-20 23:41:52

@Destroyedpeople it's not so much that people around me are breaking them, it's when they put me in an awkward situation then make me feel like the idiot for turning down a party/meet up etc

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ssd Fri 10-Jul-20 23:42:02

I've been following the rules. And been slated on here for doing so.
I wouldn't do anything else.

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