I’m a very anxious person and have always had issues with my mental health. I’m diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder, and since having my baby 12 weeks ago I have developed maternal OCD, which has been absolute hell. Worse than any bipolar/BPD episode alive.
Despite these issues, I have always been able to hold down a very good job, and am progressing in my career. Despite the awful intrusive thoughts and being terrified I am a monster, I’m coping with motherhood very well, love my baby to bits, and am keeping my psychiatrist updated in case I need him. I’m medicated and awaiting CBT. I also have a weekly therapist and a CPN. I’m trying my best to keep myself stable as best as I can, even though there are times I just want to hide away and cry and not have all of these terrible thoughts.
I like my MIL, but I don’t trust her. She has commented a lot on how great my partner is, and told me I wouldn’t be able to cope without him. Her comment ‘How would you be able to parent without your medication? What if you didn’t have my son? You wouldn’t.’
She has also been very overwhelming about our nighttime routine with our son and telling us what to do as if we are five. We are 25 and 28, live in our own house, both work.
She has also made comments about what good lawyers she has, with no other context.
Her husband is a millionaire so I don’t doubt they would win in anything legal related.
The other evening after that comment I said to my DP I wanted to go home, as we were visiting them. He was so angry with his mum, told her it was not okay, packed up the car and we left. He hasn’t spoken to her in days.
I know she will think I’ve turned him against her, even though he too agrees she isn’t being very nice to me.
I know nothing is going to happen, but godforbid, if me and DP split, am IBU to worry about her trying to take my son away from me? And would she have a leg to stand on?
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To be scared my MIL could try to take my baby from me?
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VodkaCranberry2 · 05/07/2020 21:36
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