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To ask how sister-in-law got her money

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SweetSouberry Sun 05-Jul-20 19:07:28

It would be really rude to ask wouldn’t it but I am fascinated?

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Smallsteps88 Sun 05-Jul-20 19:08:14

confused how is it your business?

PurpleDaisies Sun 05-Jul-20 19:08:40


Aquamarine1029 Sun 05-Jul-20 19:10:59

It would be very rude to ask, and if I were her, I would be extremely put off if you did. Absolutely none of your business.

Splitsunrise Sun 05-Jul-20 19:12:14

Well yes probably, unless you’re close! Could you find out another way? Does she have a job?

NotIncandescentWithRage Sun 05-Jul-20 19:12:52

In what context though?

Has she suddenly come in to some dosh and you’re being nosey or are you wondering how she’s built herself a decent life because of work and want to know how she did it?

mummmy2017 Sun 05-Jul-20 19:13:13

So she must be rich.

DrPatient Sun 05-Jul-20 19:13:45

Of course it's rude.

steff13 Sun 05-Jul-20 19:15:25

It would be okay to ask her about her job. But, "where she got her money," implies that you think it was something kind of shady, and yes it would be rude to ask her about that.

Rebelwithallthecause Sun 05-Jul-20 19:15:40

Under what context?

I’m guessing inheritance or maybe she just has a job that’s much higher paying than you imagine or she’s got a bonus

letmethinkaboutitfornow Sun 05-Jul-20 19:19:08

Cummings relative


However, I think you may need to ask her, unless you want to engage a private detective’s services. I am lacking the ability of mind reading from this distance 😂

Emeraldshamrock Sun 05-Jul-20 19:19:12


KitKat2020 Sun 05-Jul-20 19:19:25

Why don’t you just ask your husband? Are they estranged?

HowLongCanICallitBabyWeight Sun 05-Jul-20 19:20:25

I think it depends on context, to say 'you're so successful, your business is thriving, you're a single parent to three child geniuses, your home is immaculate and you provide a very nice lifestyle for your family how do you do it?' or even 'you've made such a good shot of your career/business I'm struggling a bit do you have any advice' Is very different to 'and how are you so well off?!?!'

TARSCOUT Sun 05-Jul-20 19:21:07

My mouth actually dropped open at this question however as I may be the SIL - if I am, the answers won't surprise you!
a) It is none of your business.
b) Because of how you alienated us you'll never know.
c) No, we haven't left anything to your children because of b
d) If you hadn't been such a controlling shit SIL you'd be benefitting already.

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SweetSouberry Sun 05-Jul-20 19:31:14

Totally totally none of my business and I am really nosey, not going to lie. She is going to marry my husband’s brother.

She has a job in that she works for herself.

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Elbels Sun 05-Jul-20 19:34:10

Well how much do you think she has?

Hoppinggreen Sun 05-Jul-20 19:35:32

Are you sure she has got lots of money? If your only evidence is what she posts on SM then it might all be bullshit

sansou Sun 05-Jul-20 19:35:50

Well, she's either successful and makes her own or she has indulgent rich parents and regular handouts.

Your DH could simply ask his brother.

KitKat2020 Sun 05-Jul-20 19:35:53

She has a job in that she works for herself

Is she a successful businesswoman?

CucumberTree Sun 05-Jul-20 19:36:58

Well your husbands brother will know. Surely she works/they’d have wanted you to know if it was a lottery win.
@TARSCOUT I don’t know why but I really like your post!

Pinkyyy Sun 05-Jul-20 19:37:16

I would say more info needed, but there actually isn't. Mind your own business.

Aquamarine1029 Sun 05-Jul-20 19:38:07

Your DH could simply ask his brother.

This isn't any of her husband's business either.

Northernsoullover Sun 05-Jul-20 19:39:54

I totally get your curiosity but in a million years would never ask. I live in quite a wealthy area and some friends do seem to have loads of money ( based on lifestyle and property) I know the salaries of some (ish) based on their public sector scales and of course I'm curious! How DID you buy this house? type thing. Inheritance? Lottery win? Gifted? Side hustle? Or did you simply not spend from birth and save every dubloon? Its perfectly natural to wonder but v rude to ask wink

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