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To get this driver fired?

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TinyPigeon · 05/07/2020 11:01

DAILY MAIL AND SUN ARE FACIST SCUM

Help me think this through.

I had an Argos delivery this morning which came early while I was still in bed. I stuck my head out of the window and asked the driver to just leave it on the step and I would get it in in a bit. I thought he would leave it and drive away as others have.

I brought the baby downstairs and settled her and then went to bring the parcel in, so a couple of minutes later. I opened the door and the driver was still there. I apologised because I didn't realise he'd be waiting for me. But also cringed because I was still in my nightshirt and had been feeding Dd so it was fairly unbuttoned.

Obviously Id thought he was gone and was just grabbing parcels off my step so wasn't super bothered about dignity.

However I just got a text from a private number saying "Hi thank you for putting a big smile on my face for the rest of the day your a beautiful woman xx".

I'm really grossed out. There's noone else it could be. I'm freaking that this man knows where I live and annoyed that he has saved my number. What should I do? I don't want to lose someone their livelihood. I'd told DH how friendly he was Envy

Can I complain? Should I?

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Notajogger · 05/07/2020 11:06

Yes you should. Breach of data protection with your phone number at the very least!
They should know what kind of idiot is representing their company.

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Rebelwithallthecause · 05/07/2020 11:07

Yes report
It’s not the first someone has had similar happen to them and asked on these boards

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riotlady · 05/07/2020 11:08

Ugh yes, definitely report. That’s wildly inappropriate!

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Toomanyradishes · 05/07/2020 11:09

Report him

Its a data breach if hes taken your phone number from a work document and used it on his personal phone etc

Its creepy and unprofessional and completely inappropriate

If he gets away with tjis without comment then he could continue with this behaviour with yourself and other customers some of whom may feel even more vunlerable than you

Dont feel bad about him getting into trouble, he will know its wrong hes just bank on you being socially conditioned to not want to speak out, the same as men who grope women on crowded trains

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TheQueef · 05/07/2020 11:10

Eurgh.
I wouldn't report him (he deserves it, scuzzy twat) but I would reply omg hahaha as if, you didn't even register.

They never miss an opportunity.

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TinyPigeon · 05/07/2020 11:10

I guess I feel guilty because he seemed very friendly EnvyEnvyEnvy

Sorry that probably makes me seem like an idiot. I am a card carrying hairy armpit feminist!

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EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 05/07/2020 11:10

Take a screen shot, Report it - aside from the sexual harassment angle, in using your personal data to text you privately, I think that's against data protection legislation.
Of course, as you only have the number, you are not 100% certain it was the delivery driver, although it probably was - just to be aware of that & your wording when you contact Argos.

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SerenityNowwwww · 05/07/2020 11:12

Creepy. Maybe he thought it was going to
‘Make your day’. Oh dear. I’d be mortified.

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MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously · 05/07/2020 11:15

You are any to get someone fired because he sent you a text? I think he was probably trying to make you feel better because he'd caught you unexpectedly and you were clearly embarrassed about it.
It was crass and inappropriate and icky, but getting him sacked?

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Babyroobs · 05/07/2020 11:15

It's completely inappropriate but please think of the implications before reporting. I would send a message back along the lines of please don't ever send me inappropriate messages like tis again and please remove my number from your personal phone or I will be reporting to your employer, so that he knows his behaviour is inappropriate and it makes him think about how he has behaved. However just reporting without a warning seems a bit extreme, give him the chance first to never do it again and think about his actions.
I would not feel good if someone lost their job because of one moment of stupidity.

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CooperLooper · 05/07/2020 11:16

I'd screenshot and report as well - that's unacceptable on so many levels.

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TooTrueToBeGood · 05/07/2020 11:17

I guess I feel guilty because he seemed very friendly

Friendly? I'd call it creepy, sleezy, stalkerish and completely inappropriate.

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BoingBoingyBoing · 05/07/2020 11:18

That's so far over the line to the point of absurdity.

Absolutey report him.

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TinyPigeon · 05/07/2020 11:19

this behaviour with yourself and other customers some of whom may feel even more vunlerable than you


This is what is bothering me. What if i lived alone, or was otherwise more vulnerable than I am. There have been points in my life when this would have really upset me.

I think it's on Argos wether they fire him or not, not on me. For all I know he's had three warnings from the company for doing the same thing already.

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BoingBoingyBoing · 05/07/2020 11:20

"It's completely inappropriate but please think of the implications before reporting."

Maybe he should have thought of the implications before sending the fucking text.

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FOJN · 05/07/2020 11:21

I'm a card carrying feminist too.

I would be inclined to reply telling him his text was inappropriate, unprofessional and a breach of data protection and if he contacts you again you will report him to his employer.

He needs to be told but surely as feminists we should feel righteously pissed off, confident and capable of doing it ourselves. I would imagine the threat of reporting him to his employer would make him think twice about doing it again.

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TooTrueToBeGood · 05/07/2020 11:21

I would not feel good if someone lost their job because of one moment of stupidity.

And what if this was not a one off moment of stupidity? What if he makes a habit of inappropriate behaviour towards his female customers? What if he's capable of much more than inappropriate texts? If nobody reports him to his employer they have no reason to look more closely at his customer interactions and he could get away with all sorts. It's not a given that he would be fired either. There are various options open to his employer short of termination.

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Onestepup · 05/07/2020 11:21

Report. That isn't 'friendly', it's invasive.

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LastTrainEast · 05/07/2020 11:22

That text made me cringe. I would never have sent it and I don't get how any man would think it was ok, but do go with a very cold 'that is inappropriate' etc and save it for a bit just in case he uses the number again.

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riotlady · 05/07/2020 11:24

I agree that it’s on his employer whether or not he gets sacked- you’re not making that decision, you are just truthfully reporting what he did.

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RedOasis · 05/07/2020 11:25

You are assuming it was him. Could have been a creepy neighbour. Could have been a woman.... that being said screen shot it and send to company

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oo0Tinkerbell0oo · 05/07/2020 11:25

I would report, in no way is what he done acceptable. How many times has he done it before and gotten away with it. It's not your fault if he gets sacked, it's because his employers have deemed him to be unemployable after his behaviour.

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TinyPigeon · 05/07/2020 11:27

@polyxena actually it does have an effect. When they use a post they link to it- they won't link to a post calling them fascist scum will they?

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