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To think at 31 my friend isn’t too old to be having a baby

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Halfwayto50 Fri 03-Jul-20 17:01:13

My lovely friend has recently started ttc she’s worried she’s too old and she’s going to struggle with her pregnancy due to her age. I’ve reassured her best as I can I personally had my two children at 21 and 23 so I personally don’t know what it will be like for her.

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HavelockVetinari Fri 03-Jul-20 17:04:54

31 is about average for a first time mum, she's bonkers to be worried!

Mmmmycorona Fri 03-Jul-20 17:06:05

Yeah, she has no reason to be worried. 31 is an average age to have a baby.

Halfwayto50 Fri 03-Jul-20 17:07:29

Yes that’s what I’ve told her I was one of the youngest when I went to any baby groups. A lot of mothers in their 40’s even.

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Glendaruel Fri 03-Jul-20 17:09:51

I'm 41 and hope to have another after! As society the age we have babies has moved, now it's quite normal.

healththrowawayx Fri 03-Jul-20 17:10:20

Surely that’s a normal age?

I’m in my early 20s and feel too young for kids (personally)

ShebaShimmyShake Fri 03-Jul-20 17:10:49

What do you think, OP?

dementedpixie Fri 03-Jul-20 17:10:52

I was 30 and 33 when I had mine

ShutUpaYourFace Fri 03-Jul-20 17:10:59

I was 35 and 39 when I had my children. About the same age as everyone else on the school run. Mid thirties is quite normal these day's. Being worried will only make TTC harder. Tell her to save her worries for the next 30 years smile

Purpleartichoke Fri 03-Jul-20 17:12:12

31 is average. She has no reason to worry.

IdblowJonSnow Fri 03-Jul-20 17:12:30

31 sounds young to me! Its after 35 it allegedly 'drops off' but in reality anyone I've known with fertility issues were younger and it was unrelated to age.

CluelessBaker Fri 03-Jul-20 17:13:58

She’s bonkers

doadeer Fri 03-Jul-20 17:14:02

Goodness not round me. I'm 30 and the youngest mum in my area I've met in a year and a half!

Halfwayto50 Fri 03-Jul-20 17:14:40

I think it’s a good age to have children and although I don’t regret mine and I love them I wish sometimes that I had waited till I was older.

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Qwicky Fri 03-Jul-20 17:16:29

My Dsis was worried that 28 was too late! She droned on and onnnnnnnnn about it for months. In the end I honestly had to sit on my clenched fists to stop myself from calling her a self absorbed twat.

IHateCoronavirus Fri 03-Jul-20 17:17:54

It is a lovely age. Most people will be still active to cope with the early years, more secure financially, and have a good idea about who they are, what they want from life and how they want to raise their children.

Snowcappedmountains Fri 03-Jul-20 17:17:59

Definitely not too old at all. I'm 32 and I'm the only one out of my friendish group to have children.

SephrinaX Fri 03-Jul-20 17:21:47

Not too old at all. My antenatal group had 8 women in it. 7 out of the 8 were in their 30s. And only one was younger at 24.

borntohula Fri 03-Jul-20 17:22:26

I'm 31, came off Nexplanon in Feb and was pregnant in April. I know it's not easy for everyone and to be honest, I was shocked, thinking I'd be less fertile in my 30s than I was when I had the implant inserted.

schafernaker Fri 03-Jul-20 17:23:38

I was 27 & 29 when I had my two and was one of the youngest mums at baby groups. 31 I’d say is still the young side of average

Shmithecat2 Fri 03-Jul-20 17:24:40

I was 40 when I had my one and only DC. She's either a bit daft or just attention seeking.

BoomyBooms Fri 03-Jul-20 17:24:49

It does differ by where you live. Last place I lived I was strange for not having kids at 30. Now I'm in a city I'm 33 with my first and it's very normal, lots of first time mum's are older than me.

Rumtopf Fri 03-Jul-20 17:26:07

I'm 41 and doing IVF, she's not too old at all!

cologne4711 Fri 03-Jul-20 17:28:30

31 isn't too old, it's average. Possibly even on the slightly young side of average these days.

There was another thread on here about someone who's 48. That's too old for all sorts of reasons, 31 is not.

ShellsAndSunrises Fri 03-Jul-20 17:30:01

Oh man, I’m 30 and we haven’t started trying yet... my friends had their children at 18/19, I’m the only childless one, I feel geriatric in comparison. But I hope I’m not too old overall!

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