Our friends - a gay couple - who we have been close with for the last 15 years came over to stay. They have had one set of parents, a sister, her baby and their two dogs staying with them for two weeks whilst they wait to move into their new place. They needed a break so we said they could come and stay with us for a few days. They are in our ‘bubble’. We’ve both recently moved from London to the south coast close by - which was a decision we made together really.
DH and I have been friends with them for years. Before DD came along and we were married. We’ve had wild times - but we’ve all grown up....or so I thought.
They arrived with bottle of vodka in tow. It lasted them about an hour until they pulled out another and it went.
We have made friends with our neighbours since we Moved here and have made an active effort to try and integrate ourselves in our new area and street.
I am SO EMBARRASSED by their behaviour this evening. It’s like they regressed to us being 20 again.
By the time DD went to bed, they were screaming in the garden, swearing (C word at the end of almost every sentence), trying to talk to neighbours over the fences. They also love ‘shock values - which was funny when we were kids but really isn’t now and they reverted straight back to it.
I’m embarrassed our neighbours have heard them and worried how it reflects on us. I’m sure they could also hear us trying to sort them out.
I’m also annoyed at DH a little as I was trying to get them inside but was getting no support in that.
Some of the things they were shouting have left me unable to sleep and worried about how it reflects.
They have hearts of gold, and DD adores themes Bhave always been terrible drunks. I don’t actually like being drunk so maybe this has been exasperated because I wasn’t drinking....
I get they were excited as they had a much needed little break from a stressful time, but I really am thinking of asking them to go back tomorrow rather than staying any more days. AIBU? And how should I approach this with the neighbours? Just a quick sorry next time I see them?
They’ve also broken a few bits in the house by falling into them.
Both DH and I are pretty mortified. But also know they’ve been stressed and want to give them an opportunity to unwind.
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So embarrassed by friends. AIBU to ask them to leave tomorrow morning?
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Rebecca980 · 01/07/2020 23:57
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Am I being unreasonable?
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