When I first had my oldest DC my MIL was really nasty to me, she later apologised/ explained she was going though a bad time emotionally as she had lost her husband of 45 years 18 months earlier. I never made a drama and I was very graceful in my response.
Ever since I have been reserved with her. I am always kind and make sure I treat her the same as my parents eg calling, sending cards etc but to be honest I just don't feel comfortable in her company. I never relax. I hate visiting her because it is so far away we have to stay overnight, I can't be myself or chill out. I know she thinks I am incompetent (because she told me..) so I just don't want to be there. My husband thinks I need to move on and stop holding a grudge, she is opinionated with everyone (which is true) and I need to have a thicker skin. I can do the actions eg cards, phone calls but not the emotions. Does that make me someone that holds a grudge or is that natural?
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SMarie123 · 01/07/2020 09:25
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