To Move Back To London?

[Caffeineprincess]

This is inspires by a thread asking if people had regretted leaving London...

So I moved out of London not really far-on the outskirts in Essex but in a completely different side to where I used to live.

When I moved here it was with my Ex as a family as we have a LO but now we are no longer together. I’m finding being here as a single parent hard..don’t get me wrong it’s quiet, in lockdown walking around the countryside and things has been great, and schools are good also crime rate is a lot lower ..however I feel very isolated.

I don’t drive and getting around ( post lowdown anyway) is a bit tricky. All my friends are in my old area, and things are a bit more accessible.

AIBU in thinking about moving back? Or should I five if more a chance here?

[Caffeineprincess]

Excuse the typos!

[Needanewnamenow]

I did a similar move. East London to Essex, end of the central line. I really didn't like it. We had a lovely house and the village was beautiful but it was pretty insular, no one actually spoke to us, there was little to do other than drive places and walk in the countryside (which was lovely but limiting in winter). The commute was also a killer. So we moved back after less than two years. We were lucky to be able to afford and I still thank my lucky stars we managed to sell the house, but there's no shame in doing so. We have actually gone on to move again, this time far outside of London and not commuting. Thai move is already successful, these half way house moves don't always work.

[Needanewnamenow]

*this move

[Bloodybridget]

I don't think it's unreasonable to consider moving back. How long have you been there as a single parent, does your ex live locally and spend time with your child? Could you afford an ok place to live in your old neighborhood? Would learning to drive be an option (I know it's expensive etc, but against the cost of moving)?

[Caffeineprincess]

I’ve been a single parent here for a year or so.

My Ex sees our LO every other weekend overnight, he lives 10 mins away but we don’t have contact outside of that as our relationship ended due to DV.

I have tried to learn to drive, but it’s finding time and money as when I’m not at work I’m with my LO.

I could get a decent property in my old area, smaller garden but would be workable.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Move back. If it doesn’t work out, you can always move in the future again. It’s money you might consider a waste if that happens, but I think you’ll always regret it if you don’t.

[AntiHop]

Move back definitely.