I am due to be my sisters MOH next year.
She is expecting to be mine.
I love her so much, she truly has a heart of gold and we talk all the time. But she is also very childlike, and I know if we were friends I would have ended the friendship by now due to her childlike behaviours.
These childlike behaviours are for example taking her problems out on me when she's down. She can be mean and spiteful just like a child would do to their sibling. But it will only be because she's angry about something in her own life, and we both know this, so I will ignore her mean comments and an hour later she's back to her usual fun loving self. It can be weekly ups and downs like this with her. It would be truly horrible if I took them to heart, instead its just draining and her unpredictability is unpleasant. She only has one proper friend who is a fantastic friend to her and joint MOH with me, but my sister doesn't treat her like this, just me because I am her sister I expect.
I talk to my sister more than my friends, but I trust my friends more, we have a lot more in common, and they treat me a lot nicer.
I have lots of friends so much so that it would be impossible to pick a set bridesmaids without upsetting others, who would have expected to be in the top few. I have painfully narrowed it down to three friends, none who know each other, but all who have been the most incredible friends over the years. And then theres my lovely sister, who I love, but I just don't think has supported me as much as the other three. I know my sister is an easy choice for MOH but I would rather give that place to one of my friends who has chosen to be by me.
My sister would not forgive me and has made it clear in the past she expects to be my MOH, in a jokey but serious way. My family would have a problem with me not picking her because from what they see we get along so well, she family, and when it comes to her childlike behaviour 'she doesn't mean it you know what she's like'.
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harddecisionseveryday · 29/06/2020 17:41
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