Hi All,
I've been wanting to post this for a while, but always thought maybe I am just overreacting and didn't want to seem like a b*tch!
I had a missed miscarriage in earlier this year. I was 11 weeks. I didn't tell anyone I was pregnant apart from my husband because I am such a panicker. I started bleeding from 7 weeks, and I knew in my heart I had already lost my baby, but the hospital didn't confirm it until they had scanned me three time and got a senior doctor to confirm. I opted for medical management because I couldn't of coped sitting around at home waiting.
I told my mum and dad on the day my miscarriage was confirmed. My wider family were having a party (pre lockdown!) and my mum said it would be best if they just let people know there. I didn't go because I wasn't in the right frame of mind.
My mum went round all of my aunts individually and told them. Then almost straight after my mum telling everyone, my aunt announced my cousin was expecting! Her due date is a week before mine was meant to be.
I was really happy for her and excited but what has followed has made me really sensitive.
The night before I was due to go into hospital she started posting pictures in our family page of her bump and scan. No one messaged me to ask if I was ok! I was asleep when they were posted, so I woke up early to go to hospital and that was the first thing I seen.
I thought this was a little insensitive, but its continued. Every single day there is a post about her pregnancy and pictures. It's too much for me. I think its hard because we were the same dates! So everything she is posting, I should have been going through too.
Now I am struggling to get pregnant again and I just can't bare to look at my messages.
I don't want to say anything because I don't want drama.
I am really happy for her and I can understand that she is happy and excited she is having a baby, but I think because no one ever asked me if I was alright and how I am recovering its made me more sensitive to the posts.
AIBU for being a bit upset?
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fashu · 29/06/2020 16:28
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