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Ex and I split up (my decision) at the beginning of the year. He moved into a house share at first and has just moved into a 1 bed cottage. He works full time and has every other weekend off Saturday-Monday inclusive.
Currently he sees the dc on a Thursday afternoon and a Sunday 10-6 ish.
First issue is that one dc is starting to go back and do their sports. Training/fitness just once a week all socially distanced etc. Hopefully when things are eased more the matches will be on a Sunday. He wants dc to drop the sport as the training and matches fall on 'his days'....how do I approach this as it's something our dc loves?
Second bigger issue is that since lockdown i haven't spent any time with any other adult. No socially distanced coffees etc. No family nearby. Friends are shielding (continue to choose to shield which is obviously understandable). Nothing. I've 3 dc (one with additional needs)
I feel very very very low. I'm emotional and crying more, I've no motivation. I genuinely need a break for a few days from the dc. I know this sounds like I'm an awful mum. I'm welling up just writing this.
I asked ex a month ago to think about having the dc overnight once a week. Maybe one long weekend a month that he's off. He's suggested he have them on the night our dc has his sports training, once a week.
The issue I have is my family is 200+ miles away, I'd have around 17 hours on a thurs pm until fri am when they are at his and it's not enough time to really travel to see my family, spend time with them and get back. Ex said he has things he wants to do on his weekends and long weekends so it's difficult for him to have the dc. I've also suggested he stay in this house with the dc as there's more room but ex is having none of it
What do I do? Am I bu wanting him to have them one long weekend a month? Do I just go on his terms as I wanted the marriage to end?
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ImLosingMyMarbles · 28/06/2020 18:39
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