So I'm doubting myself now - and I know this belies other underlying issues....
So I'm working from home and looking after the partners kids (7 and 9 who are never any trouble). We're three years into a relationship so the kids are totally happy with me and visa versa. I mention as she's totally comfortable with where they are and who with in fairness to her.
She tells me she is nipping to the shops and dropping off an application form at a friends house. Both are in just over 5 minutes away and it's not like I'm mentally calculating how long she'll be.
2 hours later she gets back. The kids have asked where she is several times, not out of worry, but like me wondering where the hell she has got to.
I haven't text her or called her until about 5 mins before she arrived back asking where she is and in fairness getting a bit irked. Message read "are you actually planning to come back at some point this year?"
I point out that if she was going to stop for a coffee or whatever (I'm assuming it's what she did) it would have been fairly courteous just to drop me a message to say "going to be a while at blah blah" or something to that affect.
I told her I don't care where she is or what she's doing (to a point obviously) and that it's not about knowing her whereabouts, it's about a little basic, mutual respect for me, and also that her kids might also want to know where she is as we're all assuming she'd have been around 30 mins or whatever. In the same case I'd have 100% dropped her a message
What I get back is that I'm being totally controlling and that she didn';t realise "I had a clock on her"
I point out I haven't called or text her in the whole time, and that I'm not asking for details of where and what she's been doing, just pointing out that she could have shown a little courtesy.
Am I actually being unreasonable?
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Abbaddon223 · 26/06/2020 19:52
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Am I being unreasonable?
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