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Noisy neighbours

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Willowmartha1 · 24/06/2020 18:58

What is about the sun that seems to bring the worst out in some people ?! We live in a quiet Mews off the seaside and across the road is a very loud family of around six (mum has just had another baby) the kids are feral and roam the streets until late at night, she never seems to care what they are up to, on more then one occasion they have sat on the bonnets of peoples cars and are generally always on the lookout for trouble. Tonight they all sitting outside on the street with their friends and making a dreadful racket, laughing really loudly etc and the kids are going up and down on a hover board. The noise is bad enough to make me shut my windows but why should I !! When the kids were causing trouble the other night they were brought home by a community support officer who stood and laughed and joked with the kids and mum. Is it worth reporting them to 101? Although I would be worried they would find out it was me.

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Krazynights34 · 24/06/2020 19:04

My view probably won’t be popular.... could you not speak to the mum?
Call 101 to report what exactly- children playing?
Does anyone else object to them sitting on bonnets etc?
It’s difficult enough to manage children in school holidays but after months of lockdown...
And, this is probably going to get me slated.. what’s wrong with making noise during daylight hours?
Why are people/you so intolerant of other people living? They aren’t (from your description) breaking the law or harming anyone.
Not everyone wants to live in quiet all the tine.
After 9pm maybe it’s too much.
And is there not a dad/other parent who you could talk to rather than automatically blaming the mum???
And why is it even vaguely relevant that’s she’s had another baby?

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Greenlamp45 · 24/06/2020 19:09

I wouldn’t speak to the Mum, don’t put your head above the parapet.

Is not use of the hoverboard breaking the law? I’d call 101 to see if someone can drop by and have a word about that and about the ASB too. Don’t leave your details, you’re not obliged to

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Willowmartha1 · 24/06/2020 19:09

Speak to the mum and get a mouthful of abuse you mean? they shout and swear like nobody's business. So you'd be happy with kids climbing and sitting on your car bonnet ???? And no there isn't a dad around. Forgive me for wanting some peace and quiet in the sun ! Sure let's all make noise, be selfish and ruin things for other people.

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PenelopePitstop49 · 24/06/2020 19:15

People have no reality of the amount of noise they make. But given the amount of kids in the household, it's never going to improve until they leave home. There is little option but to move in reality.

We've had misery from our NDN for 2 years since they moved in. He's ex army and his voice booms like a fucking sergeant major ...... you literally can hear everything he ever says to anyone. They have a constant stream of visitors - it's like a bloody public house, and the noise from their garden is incessant. Unfortunately their house has the garden to the side rather than behind, so it's very close to our boundary. Last night they had visitors so did a BBQ, the drink was flowing and then at 10pm he was shouting to Alexa (think every fucking Alexa in the village heard him) and started playing 80s trance music at full volume.... outside. I literally want to kill him.

And that's why our house is on the market Sad

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NotEverythingIsBlackandWhite · 24/06/2020 19:22

"Does anyone else object to them sitting on bonnets etc?'
I'd object if they sat on our car bonnet. The mum should teach them to respect property belonging to others.

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The80sweregreat · 24/06/2020 19:36

I'm sorry , they sound awful.
No advice really ; the authorities might be worth a try. Moving home is a drastic measure too.
Heatwaves and lockdown is a lethal combination I'm afraid.
I can sympathize and I hope someone comes on with some better advice for you. Some people are just feral I'm afraid. I despair at us humans at times as not giving a dam about your fellow neighbours is just selfish and wrong but people just don't care.

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firstimemamma · 24/06/2020 19:39

Can you report your neighbours to your local council? That's what we did with ours. You fill out a form online and then the neighbours receive a letter (that doesn't reveal your identity) saying that there has been a complaint and to keep it down etc etc.

Mind you it hasn't changed our neighbours' behaviour! Constant parties with music and noise until well after midnight on a regular basis right from the start of lockdown. Absolutely awful, selfish people who don't care if they make my toddler's life a misery or the lives of anyone else.

My sympathies op Thanks

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Krazynights34 · 24/06/2020 19:53

I didn’t say I’d be happy for them to sit on my car bonnet.
I didn’t say they should either.
If you are afraid to, or can’t (safely) talk to the mother then the council seems to be the best solution.
Are you talking about young children not teenagers who should know better?
I also will probably be slated for this but their mother might well have tried to instil discipline and respect and could have difficulties herself (PND etc). I wouldn’t be happy to think I’d pissed off all the neighbours but I expect she could be well beyond “done” with them.

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Coronabegone · 24/06/2020 20:28

I'm sorry but to be blunt, they won't change, they just won't!

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Bluntness100 · 24/06/2020 20:30

You want to call rhe police because they sat on your car bonnet? Or because they play outside?

You do know the police are busy right?

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themental · 24/06/2020 20:41

Tonight they all sitting outside on the street with their friends and making a dreadful racket, laughing really loudly

😂😂😂

They are actually outside? Laughing? Loudly?

How fucking dare them.

I'd be appalled. Phone the police immediately. They will want to know about this.

Of course you are entitled to have your windows open and hear absolutely no sound coming in from outside!!! It's a nice day.

And before anyone says otherwise, we should all agree that anybody making a noise outside - of all places - is highly unreasonable.

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Minnie888 · 24/06/2020 20:43

Just another point of view.

I was one of those 6 children many moons ago. My mother was abusive and violent and one of the only happy childhood memories of mine was playing out with my friends on the street. I never wanted to be in the house because it was so toxic and would spend all morning noon and night outside. I'm sure I was noisy but I hope people were forgiving.

People complain about antisocial behaviour but are the first to complain about kids making noise when outside. It's my view that at this time of year and with this weather people should be allowed to enjoy it. The car bonnets isn't on but I would say something if it was my car.

Things aren't always black and white and we are so quick to judge. Hate the middle-classness of this site sometimes.

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Willowmartha1 · 24/06/2020 20:53

@bluntness100 @the mental you have missed my point entirely I'm guessing you have lovely gardens to sit out in and don't mind your car bonnet being used as a seating area ??!!

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Willowmartha1 · 24/06/2020 20:54

@minnie888 I'm not middle class just respectful of other people !!

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DysonFury · 24/06/2020 21:28

Cover the car bonnet with super glue a la Mr Twit. That'll teach me.em

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Neron · 24/06/2020 22:03

I get you OP. You'll always get the apologists on here, but frankly any child sitting all over car bonnets hasn't been raised correctly. Some times there are those families who don't give a shiny one about anybody else.

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annie987 · 24/06/2020 23:26

I totally sympathise.
My neighbours are driving me up the wall and it is nothing compared to what you are putting up with.
Lockdown seems to have brought out the worst in already inconsiderate people!

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