My mum is 68 and has had hip operations her whole life. Over the last 5-8 years she's started to slow down. She hasn't got out as easily and is doing much less. But she still goes shopping (before lockdown) with my dad and they would go for walks on flat areas.
She went to the shop just as lockdown had started. She felt a pain when she went down the steps in her thigh. For a few weeks she used rest and pain relief. But it got worse. So my dad took her to a&e. They did x-rays and scans over the next 2 weeks. Found nothing. Didn't advise her on anything but said her hips were ok. My mum felt they were focused purely on her hips. She tried to plod along but stayed in the house.
On Saturday she woke in the night. She was in agony and could not stand. They called an ambulance. Paramedics had no morphine so said what do you want us to do? My mum said well you tell me what I should be doing because I can't move. They eventually took her to hospital but said they won't be able to do anything but give her pain relief. They kept her in hospital for 12 hours. Didn't admit her as there were no rehabilitation beds free. X-ray again was "clear". So they sent her home. No pain relief. Told her to contact her gp. They told her the next day a commode would arrive and a physio therapist would go around to start building her up. I said I would get her a heat/ice belt for her leg. We figured it must be muscles or tendons etc.
I went around Sunday and Monday. My mum was still in pain. Gp gave her codiene. It wasnt touching the pain. The physio didn't turn up! She rang the next day to say she would be around one day this week at some point! So they didn't deliver a commode and my mum's been getting worse pain wise each day. Pain relief is making her feel sick.
I went around today to clean as my dad's also not as fit as he was anymore. Mum was still in bed. In pain. But chatty. I told her to come and sit in the living room. She slowly walked to the chair. I made her a coffee and propped pillows up behind her back. I went home and 2 hours later my dad calls. The hospital have rung and someone else has looked at her x-ray. They think there is a fracture high up near her hip.
She was taken by ambulance and is currently in the corridor waiting to be seen and on morphine.
I am no medical expert. But I'm disgusted at the the process. Ive been trying so hard to get to the bottom of it all this week. I've been reassuring my parents. I've been promising my dad she will get sorted. I've been researching. I've been baffled as to why they have left her with no answers and in pain. The support didn't turn up.
I am waiting to hear from her. But from what I've read this afternoon it is likely going to be a long road. Surgery. Months of pain. Possibly long term damage due to the fact it was missed for weeks.
My mum has a natural high pain threshold. She didn't feel pain in labour for example. She's usually serious when things get bad.
I just feel she has been failed massively and it's disheartening. To fight this hard for help is disgusting isnt it?
AIBU?
To want to seriously complain.
Daisyxxchainxx · 24/06/2020 17:55
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLThe problem is the history she will have given , telling them that she had been mobilising/resting/taking pain relief for weeks before seeking help. That isn't usual for someone with a new hip fracture.
The acute change from being able to mobilise with pain relief to not being able to weight bear and a dramtic increase in pain should have set alarm bells ringing which is why they probably did another scan. Which was reviewed by someone senior who spotted the fracture a few days later. Which is completely rubbish for your Mum but not as uncommon as people might think.
Hopefully now she will be seen by the Orthopedic team and they can do something for her 
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