Background
Single parent work full time in NHS, stressful management job.
DD’s age 16 and almost 18
18yo was at college, doing work from home which finished early June and furloughed from part time job. DD16 never got to sit GCSE’s and has had no work to do whatsoever. We have pets as well
I am seriously struggling with keeping everything running, it was stressful trying to find food initially whilst everything imploded/exploded at work, I also was quite ill for a month I n March/April with pneumonia (managed at home by antibiotics and steroids). No family to help as they decided to shield, no partner and civil but not close RS with ex (father of DC). I do have friends and colleagues who did help with medication/food when I was desperate
DC are still treating house like a hotel and me like the hotel worker. I’ve tried rotas. I’ve tried turning off WiFi. I’ve tried reasoning. I’ve tried shouting. I am permanently now frazzled and on edge, every task I have to ask of them is met with resistance. I am sure they are bored of the house and monotony - we all are. They could go out, they don’t want to. I ask to do things with them, they can never agree and always seems to end in disagreements. I’ve bought them hobby things to do, tried to get projects going, spent time helping them with things etc. They won’t even walk the poor dog.
How do I break this cycle? I’ve taken a day off today to do something with them to try to build our RS back up. 1 DC refused the other agreed. When I got up after working late yesterday I realised how much mess there was from yesterday (dirty and clean laundry, pet bowls, blocked sink, rubbish, dishwasher) and when I asked for help before going out it descended into yelling down the entire street (embarrassing).
Now no one wants to do anything with me and gone back into their bedrooms.
I hadn’t bubbled up with anyone else although I technically can. I first asked if DC wanted to bubble up with any of their friends or families but nothing worked out. I was asked to by a single dad recently who I have been getting closer toover lockdown (socially distantly) initially the DC said they didn’t care either way, now they say me doing so is selfish, because they can’t do it. (Wouldn’t involve any kids mixing only me and him).
Feeling sorry for myself and resentful, as I am sure they are too. Even if we all make up, this will happen again in a few days time. I do not want it to be this way
How are you all managing with your teenagers?
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Menora · 24/06/2020 10:27
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