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Omg my child’s class WhatsApp group is so annoying. Would I be unreasonable to leave it?

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Waterwaterwater1 Wed 24-Jun-20 08:09:21

There is major fury on it absolutely all the time about anything.

If anyone says anything against the fury, they get shouted down.

It’s a really annoying group and is making me like the parents less.

If I left, people would notice. Politically, that feels a bit bold.

Would you leave?

(Silencing WhatsApp doesn’t work out for me. I’m someone who has to tidy away unread notifications or unread emails etc. It would drive me mad to see loads of messages unread there.)

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ChittyChittyBoomBoom Wed 24-Jun-20 08:10:33

Do you care if they notice? 🤷🏽‍♀️

littleblackno Wed 24-Jun-20 08:10:54

Just leave. Say you have to many other groups to be able to keep up with this.
Why would they care?

Busydrinkingcoffee1 Wed 24-Jun-20 08:11:19

This would drive me up the wall OP so I feel your pain!

However if you silence a chat on WhatsApp you don't get the notifications for it, I'm exactly the same on my phone, have to have them cleared but I've silenced one and I only see it if I look at that specific chat!

Waterwaterwater1 Wed 24-Jun-20 08:11:23

I do - only because I am the world’s biggest people pleaser and can’t stand any conflict confusedblush

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SinglePringle Wed 24-Jun-20 08:11:39

Mute it. You don’t see it but they don’t know. Win / win.

Galvia Wed 24-Jun-20 08:11:45

Leave the group. It will give others courage to then leave too!

Orangesarenottheonlyfruit Wed 24-Jun-20 08:12:00

I left my child's and it felt wonderful! I have a friend who lets me know if there's anything important I need to know. Interestingly, this only happens about once a term, if that. Leave the group!

Hoohaahoo Wed 24-Jun-20 08:12:21

Just mute it and dip in when you want. You won’t see notifications for it.

BlusteryLake Wed 24-Jun-20 08:12:40

I guess it depends on how much communication of value also goes on. Ours isn't like yours, ie it is pretty sensible and polite, with people mainly sticking to class related matters and it is theain communication channel between parents. I would probably stay on it even with yours though, unless it isn't actually ever used for class stuff!

Macncheeseballs Wed 24-Jun-20 08:13:15

I find the fury rather entertaining

OnlyFoolsnMothers Wed 24-Jun-20 08:13:31

How olds your child? If you have many years left at primary school to arrange play dates/ birthdays I’d suck it up and keep in the group just ignore it.

MashedSpud Wed 24-Jun-20 08:15:48

I’m so glad mine went through school before all this group chat bollocks.

What a nightmare.

Waterwaterwater1 Wed 24-Jun-20 08:20:51

My child is year 1 - I have many years left of this WhatsApp group!

There are useful things on there sometimes for sure - I’d miss that. But, at the moment especially, it’s long messages full of anger and shouting. It actually stresses me out and makes me feel kind of awkward when I bump into the parents that I think have behaved dickishly on the group. I think I’d rather blindly not know!

I may quietly leave a in the middle of the night or something blush

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Binterested Wed 24-Jun-20 08:22:49

Sounds awful. Why are they shouting ? Just leave.

Casino218 Wed 24-Jun-20 08:22:47

Say you are coming off social media for the sake of your mental health. It's not a lie. They can't challenge your mental health. Win win.

Waterwaterwater1 Wed 24-Jun-20 08:27:24

They’re upset right now because year 1 isn’t going back until September when other schools are sending their year 1s back. I get how frustrating that is. But take it to the school rather than venting on the group. There’s often annoying chat on there so it isn’t just about this and now. (I’m also really sick of people bashing schools.)

There’s no point on me being on it anyway, I’ve probably commented once in the last two years!

Good one on the social media is bad for my health! Tbh, I’m not on any other social media (instagram, Facebook) as I find it really unhealthy for me, so it’s not untrue!

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Parker231 Wed 24-Jun-20 08:30:06

Leave it - if there is anything you really need to know about, school will let you know. What is the benefit of the group?

TabbyMumz Wed 24-Jun-20 08:32:41

I'd stay in it just to see what's going on gossip wise but never comment.

Hmpher Wed 24-Jun-20 08:33:23

Blimey, I never joined anything like this for my eldest son and my youngest is too young to have started. I would never, ever want to join a group like this. I don’t want to talk to people I’m not friends with. I still managed to arrange play dates etc, just got the numbers of the parents of my son’s friends or arranged face to face when I saw them.

My eldest son was a part of an extracurricular group for a while which sent out messages by getting the teacher running it to tell one parent who then put it into WhatsApp. I thought it was unprofessional and annoying. I was the only parent not a member (never even knew they had one until I wasn’t informed of important stuff) and I couldn’t have been a member at that time as my phone was so old I couldn’t run it.

Who cares if people know you’ve left the group? You’re not teenagers, it’s really not important.

JustC Wed 24-Jun-20 08:35:39

Just put group notifications on silent and only check it once in a while to see if you have missed any important news.

cologne4711 Wed 24-Jun-20 08:37:25

Just put group notifications on silent and only check it once in a while to see if you have missed any important news

This. You can mute it for up to a year I think!

JustC Wed 24-Jun-20 08:37:57

Just to add, I'm in a WhatsApp mummy group, but it's just a few of us that are normaly sane people. I don't always comment, neither the other mums, if we don't feel like it, or are busy, on hols etc.

Thingsdogetbetter Wed 24-Jun-20 08:42:48

My phone 'glitched' and deleted WhatsApp and keeps doing it............. bloody phone! At least that's what I told work! 😁 I never used it for anything except the work's group so they couldn't catch me out. Bloody nattering rubbish all day none stop. And if there was something important on it, it got lost in the nattering anyway. Now I get a lovely single email about the important stuff and no nattering.

HairyToity Wed 24-Jun-20 08:43:15

I love our WhatsApp mum's group, it has all the goss... Plus it reminds me about PE, forest school and non uniform days. 3 mums have left it though. 2 due to a fall out, and the last never gave a reason.

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