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AIBU to think it is still term time???

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cola2019 Tue 23-Jun-20 20:43:33

I am a key worker and work 30 hrs a week I have a 12 and a 13 yr old and although my 12 yr uses the school provision for key worker children 3 days a week my daughter doesn't. She gets herself up works out her own working timetable and gets on with her work so well she works so hard and never complains about the work but I am never home to be with her. BUT most of her friends have stopped working at home now and parents have e mailed in saying they have given up now and that their children and them are enjoying the freedom of no school. A few of her friends parents have been furloughed a few don't work and one has resigned from her job to be at home with her children. Her friends are all meeting up and because very few parents are working they can be dropped off to meet in town mid morning but I work every day so can't do this. I feel so guilty because I have to work I could resign to be with them but I need the money. I feel so guilty going off to work every day when other children are being taken here there and everywhere. AIBU to think that it is still term time and not the school holidays or is it because I am just jealous of other parents not needing to work? I just think she is going to look back on this time in the future and think that I was too busy working to be able to spend time with her or take her here there and everywhere so she can see her friends!!

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user1494055864 Tue 23-Jun-20 21:03:42

If in England, then they should still be doing school work - especially at their age, it is important. My yr7 has another 4 and a bit weeks to go!!! Even then, she will be continuing a bit of learning over the summer holidays set by me, to catch up a bit, as I can't help her as I am working in my own school.

TimeWastingButFun Tue 23-Jun-20 21:06:26

It is still term time here, but my two are very much looking forward to the holidays and us not endlessly nagging them about work grin

iusedtobeabletorun Tue 23-Jun-20 21:07:19

It’s wind down time, to be honest.

We break up far too late.

TW2013 Tue 23-Jun-20 21:20:11

One of mine starts work at 7, sometimes earlier. She is finished by lunchtime, sometimes much earlier (think 9.30 was her record) and will socialise after that. With no form time, assembly, travel between lessons, disruptive classmates etc. lockdown learning is far more efficient. So it is still term time but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't drop her in town to meet friends. Can she be trusted to walk into town? They need a mixture of work and keeping contact with friends.

coronafiona Tue 23-Jun-20 21:31:53

I'm thinking I need to get them some stuff to catch up on over the holidays! They've done so little schooling really (although have done everything that's been set) my fear is they won't be ready for next year. Am I mean?!

Dragonglass Tue 23-Jun-20 21:47:40

We went to the beach yesterday. They are doing some school work but it doesn't have to be done between 9 and 3 every day.
They got fresh air, sunshine and exercise and they were happy, which is more important to me at the moment.

GinDaddyRedux Tue 23-Jun-20 21:50:14

They're a long time in school and work - a couple of weeks of wind-down in an unnatural moment in our national history is hardly going to destroy their futures.

Don't worry about what other people can and can't do.

Chocolatepeanuts Tue 23-Jun-20 21:56:24

Here in NI we're approaching our final week, definitely wind down time. Mine are doing minimal amounts this week and next, but it would be minimal in school also!(primary)

justkeepmovingon Tue 23-Jun-20 21:58:34

If it helps OP we are still working flat out, no beach trips and dropping off with friends. I run a business thats is slowly sinking and my DH has been full time throughout, and we feel bloody awful, we've literally had weekends to do any of the nice stuff, but our DS are bombarded with friends who's parents are off and furloughed or taking time out.

We will both have to be working flat out during the summer break as well, so for us the school work is keeping them busy, and summer break is going to be tough.

I think we are all just going to have to take this time and pop it into the "well that was a shot year" pile!

I'm just grateful we are all healthy.

Not that it helps you, but I just wanted to say you aren't alone.

justkeepmovingon Tue 23-Jun-20 21:59:21

*shit not shot!

WonderWebbs Tue 23-Jun-20 22:02:14

Don't feel guilty OP it is still term time. My DD is in year 12 and she has live online lessons every day plus a fair amount of homework. School breaks up in two weeks just as the restrictions are being eased so she can catch up with friends then.

Stannisbaratheonsboxofmatches Tue 23-Jun-20 22:03:13

Ds (6) is at school. Dd (11) is doing her work at home.

She has more free time than she would at school, so more freedom than usual. Her friends are similar so they do meet up, but I agree it’s important to keep going until the end of term.

I would think it’s fine to book a few days away if you can and want to while prices are lower, but we aren’t doing this.

BogRollBOGOF Tue 23-Jun-20 22:05:22

Most people I know with children of a variety of ages have been struggling. Few have any momentum left even if they hot iff to a decent start.
Highly motivated independent workers are a minority at anything younger than A-Level. They will have their reward with well-practiced skills and knowledge. Many families are just in energy-conservation mode now.

mineofuselessinformation Tue 23-Jun-20 22:05:30

Given that your daughter is working entirely independently, I think you should tell her how proud you are of her rather than feeling guilty about it!
She is laying down some amazing skills for when she gets older.
Just make sure that if we are allowed, she has some fab days in the school holidays to reward her and your other dc for their sensible choices.
And of course, encourage them to socialise when it is safe and appropriate to do so.

Grasspigeons Tue 23-Jun-20 22:05:47

Mine is still working but i think he is in a small minority. We've got 4 weeks to go. Luckily he can do the work flexibly apart from the live lessons but these are only one a day.

seenbeensbean Tue 23-Jun-20 22:08:36

No wind down time here, school are still doing lessons 9-3 and my DCs were in last week and are in next week. This week it's live lessons for them and others are in.

TheOrigBrave Tue 23-Jun-20 22:17:46

My yr6 has been in school full time since 1st June, and thank goodness for that. I am a single parent working full time and lockdown when he wasn't at school was pretty hideous (I did have other factors as well).

They are bursting one yr6 bubble on the 3rd July but one bubble will remain until the end of term.

It's going to be hard enough over the summer with sports camps etc maybe not running so I"m very thankful he is occupied (and very happy) for as long as possible.

Regarding your situation OP, both my kids have had to get used to not being able to do all the things that kids with two parents at home or a SAHP can do. It's just the way it is.

Tellmetruth4 Tue 23-Jun-20 22:18:00

Don’t feel guilty, you’re correct it definitely is still term time and no way would kids in England be winding down as early as June during a normal summer term.

Your kids are learning good skills and you won’t have to be scrambling around for catch-up sessions on top of a normal school timetable in September. The other kids can ditch the schooling for now but they’ll probably have to do double later so what your kids are doing is probably less stressful in the long term.

Whendoesthisgeteasier Tue 23-Jun-20 22:46:59

And I bet it's the same parents complaining that their kids schools aren't doing enough hmm

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RickOShay Tue 23-Jun-20 22:55:07

I completely agree with you. We are still trying but it’s getting harder!

HipTightOnions Tue 23-Jun-20 22:58:17

I’m a (state) secondary teacher and my school is teaching (remotely) a full programme of lessons, and will do until the end of term.

Around two-thirds of my classes are engaging well with lessons and have learnt virtually everything they would have learned in school.

One-third seem to have given up, and they will start with a big disadvantage next year.

OneOfTheGrundys Tue 23-Jun-20 22:59:31

I’m still teaching/planning remotely all day so my DC have to do their work! We all settle down for 6 or so hours a day and have weekends off. I often work evenings too but the kids don’t.
Lots of their friends (teens) have stopped bothering.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz Tue 23-Jun-20 23:00:47

It's, what? Three weeks til the end of term?

So if they were at school now they'd be doing residentials / days out/ DofEdinburgh / sports day / end of year play rehearsals.

Wind down time.

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