Hi all,
I’m currently 6 months pregnant with first baby, after a long time of trying and being diagnosed with endometriosis. I’ve been diagnosed with a liver condition which has resulted in my liver not functioning properly and weekly hospital visits for baby, due to a strong chance of pre-term birth and risk of stillborn. We still don’t have exact reasons on what is causing any of this. Needless to say, this has been a tough time.
My husband and I have been married 7 months. Recently he has been showing me a lack of empathy including getting irritated with me voicing occasional worries or concerns about baby, not interacting with bump at all and getting irate and snappy with me when I speak or say I’m having pain. I understand he is likely worried too. The thing I’m finding hard to deal with is the rudeness, harsh tone of voice and acting like I’m a constant irritant just for being. This morning he complained at me for not doing the dishwasher ‘Oh guess I’m doing the dishes, you just sit there on your arse’ (I’m actually WFH) and said I had woken him up by replying to him when he asked me a question this morning. He has called me a fucking idiot and said he is sick of me and won’t be doing my visa because he doesn’t care anymore. I’ve been trying to sort my visa with him for a while as he will be moving back to his home country in January, and the wait time is now showing as 12-20 months. He doesn’t understand why I’m so worried about being left in the U.K. with a small baby. I can’t afford to rent a place on my maternity pay and have nobody to help with childcare to allow me to work.
Im feeling overwhelmed and unsure how to proceed. I don’t know if I’m being sensitive or if he is being a dick.
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Is he rude or am I over sensitive?
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Pregnantandstressed24 · 23/06/2020 11:36
OP posts:
Am I being unreasonable?
67 votes. Final results.
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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