I understand that most people are closer to their families and have missed them dearly during lockdown and it’s nice we can now see them (albeit whilst social distancing).
But here’s my story. I have a partner and two dc. Oh works long hours during the week and every weekend we were expected to travel to go visit the in laws and my family so they could see the children. They never came to us. Bearing in mind both dc have additional needs and our families aren’t elderly so are very able to travel themselves so they could come to us. Our whole weekends would consist of keeping everyone else happy and having little time to ourselves. It was getting emotionally and physically draining. Our families can be quite hard work for various reasons. We aren’t the average family. I would say my family is borderline toxic. If we didn’t visit we would be asked why we didn’t want to go over etc and being made to feel guilty. They both live within half an hour of our home isn’t far at all but travelling, visiting etc means we had no time to ourselves.
Lockdown has been an absolute relief. I understand it’s not this way for everyone but for us it’s been amazing. Oh has worked all the way through but we’ve spent more time than ever at home. Got some gardening & diy done. We live in the country and near the coast so we’ve spent some time as a family of 4 without worrying about keeping everyone happy. It’s been fantastic to be honest.
Obviously I’m not saying we aren’t going to visit family at all but aibu to cut it right down to perhaps once or twice a month?
Neither family are lonely. Oh’s parents have grown up children at home. My parents have two teenagers. Neither are elderly.
I just want to stay in our own little bubble for sometime longer. To enjoy the summer without pleasing everyone else first.
Aibu to feel like this?
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AIBU?
To want to do our own thing long term.
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Kaj29 · 23/06/2020 09:54
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Am I being unreasonable?
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