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Rainbow12e Mon 22-Jun-20 22:09:29

Back to normal?
I am staying with DP who I have been with over a year now and his 2 kids. 1 is at uni working remotely from home and the other is 9.
Both myself and DO have also been wfh and home schooling but it's been lovely. Maybe it's because I am an introvert at heart but I have loved the cosy evenings, watching films and playing games as a family, baking and long walks. I haven't missed the office, my home or even the many gigs and events we used to go to as a couple. I miss my adult daughters and grandkids but I feel really sad at the thought of going back to normal. Is it just me?

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dudsville Mon 22-Jun-20 22:13:17

I feel you op. I'm dreading a return to the office and i also don't want to return thi the busyness of my time off. I really feel the 10 hours a week that i haven't spent commuting.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace Mon 22-Jun-20 22:14:20

No, pretty sure that it's not just you.

However, it definitely isn't me. I bloody hate it and can't wait until the restaurants, bars and cafes open blush

Saz42 Mon 22-Jun-20 22:14:25

I feel the same. I am quite an introvert too. I have loved wfh and spending time in my garden, which I am so lucky to have. I am in no hurry to get back to normal.

OhioOhioOhio Mon 22-Jun-20 22:19:23

I feel like that too op.

PrincessHoneysuckle Mon 22-Jun-20 22:20:01

I want my life back!

Confused124 Mon 22-Jun-20 22:22:35

I can see why you have enjoyed it and I’m genuinely happy for the people who have found a better quality of life through this

Personally though it’s been shit for me . Separated from dp this whole time, separated from my mum . To much time on my hands and reduced work so worrying about job Also .

Can not wait for some semblance of normality !!

CaviarAndCigarettes Mon 22-Jun-20 22:22:55

Whilst I am enjoying fewer social expectations I cannot wait to see my parents again.

I just want to hug my mum.

RightIsRight Mon 22-Jun-20 22:24:00

As long as you aren’t going on about how lockdown needs to continue because people are dying and putting the guilt trip on everyone who wants back to normal then that’s fine. You are fine to want things to stay as they are but they won’t and nor should they be just because it suits
Your way of living.

Viviennemary Mon 22-Jun-20 22:24:49

In some ways I want things to be open again, going out for meals, coffees and so on. But not to dashing about here there and everywhere.

HowFastIsTooFast Mon 22-Jun-20 22:27:04

I'm the same OP. It helps that I live a long way from family so am accustomed to not seeing them for months anyway, and where I live lockdown has been a little lighter than in some places, but I have loved working less hours (despite less pay), having no commute, not having the pressure to be social all the time, picking up old hobbies and just hanging out at home with DP.

My veg box and wine deliveries have become the highlights of the week and I love it grin

Wearywithteens Mon 22-Jun-20 22:28:07

I’ve loved it too OP. I actually think wfh will be semi permanent now in our team so that’s great, especially when the dark mornings and bad weather come around... and I’ve not had to worry about my teens out ‘til all all hours and coming back late...

They conversely have hated it and want to be out as soon as the pubs reopen!

AlCalavicci Mon 22-Jun-20 22:28:19

I am torn between the two , for two years I have been asking if I can work from home a few days a month but I was always told no I have to go to the sites I cover ( 6 across the city I live in ) so I spend a lot of time on buses & trains . So WFH has been great , I only have to go to each site once every two weeks and its working well for everyone .

But I do miss going out with my family , and I cant wait to be able to hug my brother .
And I want a proper pint !

Leflic Mon 22-Jun-20 22:29:12

I’ve loved the simple life. It’s been amazing.

grafittiartist Mon 22-Jun-20 22:30:41

Me too- which I am surprised about.
I feel much better for the lack of choices, and simpler routine.
Feel sad about returning to normal- but am aware that it is not sustainable and am worried about people's jobs.

Samtsirch Mon 22-Jun-20 22:30:59

I am half and half, some things I have loved about lockdown and don’t want to give up, other things I have hated and will be glad to see the back of.
I wish I could choose which bits I could keep and which bits I could get rid of, but life doesn’t work that way, unfortunately.

Oysterbabe Mon 22-Jun-20 22:33:06

I am an introvert too, which is why lockdown has been hell. I haven't been alone in months.

leli Mon 22-Jun-20 22:36:42

I have LOVED wfh and lockdown. Just me and DH. I am introvert. It's almost been the best few months of my adult life - and we're talking decades here. But that's not to say that I don't have the deepest sympathies for those whose lives have been destroyed or altered by Covid 19.

Those of us who've loved it have to find a way to make the good bits continue while supporting those who've been suffering terribly.

VenusTiger Mon 22-Jun-20 22:39:03

I totally get where you're coming from OP - I'm homeschooling my little boy, DH wfh - I've missed having time to myself but we've managed that quite well actually and I've enjoyed walking around my village and seeing no cars some days - it feels like the "simpler" times my parents speak of in the 40s and 50s. I'm very friendly and sociable but I prefer to be at home if you see what I mean, so I will miss the secure and comfort feeling about it yes.

morethanafortnight Mon 22-Jun-20 22:39:15

I'm dreading the traffic going back to normal in the rush hour.

converseandjeans Mon 22-Jun-20 22:46:01

YANBU it's been a strange time but it has been lovely to spend more time at home. We're both teachers and have been working throughout (and despite popular opinion on here we're actually in school as usual just doing different tasks)
I am more anti-social than I thought & haven't been too fussed about zoom calls etc..
I think in years to come some people will look back at this as a horrible, stressful time with worries about someone passing away & losing jobs. Some of those more fortunate ones will look back fondly at family time, slower pace of life. It's not dissimilar to the 1970's.

CostaCosta Mon 22-Jun-20 22:46:08

I feel exactly the same op. Dh returns to work next week, my ds and I will miss him a lot!

Knittingnanny Mon 22-Jun-20 22:48:07

I’ve loved the slower pace and although we are both fairly newly retired , had, I realise now , been trying to do too much . I have realised how tiring baby and child care had been for me. I absolutely adore my local little grandchildren though and will carry on when required.
The sadness for me in lockdown has been cancelling my annual trips to USA and Far East to visit my adult sons and grandchildren. Also worried about another sons job and possible redundancies after the furlough ends.
But no dashing here there and everywhere has been good
2 of my local school age young grandchildren have visibly relaxed, but are fortunate in having parents working from home , a garden and lots of support from mum and dad with home schooling.
Some many different experiences from people over the last 14 weeks.
As a retired infant teacher I worry about the length of time vulnerable children have been away from a safe environment and routine.

jimmyhill Mon 22-Jun-20 22:48:19

Just... keep life simple after it's over? Pretend you're still locked down.

Mintychoc1 Mon 22-Jun-20 22:48:29

I’m confused about which WFH jobs are so compatible with home education that it’s fun! Most people who are wfh are struggling to home educate their kids.

I also think that, apart from work, if people want to live a lockdown life then they can. You can have all your groceries , toiletries etc delivered. You don’t need to go in to a shop. You don’t have to go out and socialise. You don’t have to go to restaurants, bars, shows, museums, sporting events. So anyone who has enjoyed it can carry on.

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