I'll try to put all information in to be told whether I'm being a bit of a cow or not.
I'm due a parcel today but not until 16:30-18:30. DD6 has been begging to play out today so due to having the back garden dug out, I said she could play in the front garden with her dolls. Whilst she's playing, the door bell rings and as I'm walking through the hall, DD opens the door to tell me delivery is here. At this point, the driver has gone back to his van to retrieve the parcel so DD walks into the house out of the way. Driver puts the parcel down and says to DD 'you can't just go round letting yourself into people's houses you know' without saying a word to me and goes to walk away after scanning item. At that I said 'sorry, what do you mean? She lives here, it isn't a random house'. He went on to say he'd rang the door bell and she'd shouted to him that it was OK, that she'd shout me as I don't always hear the bell from the back of the house. At that he'd made the comment to her and gone to leave. I stopped him and said I felt it was inappropriate that he'd said that to her as this is her house and she thought she was helping by shouting me. I asked if she'd gone to close to him at any point and if that was the issue and he'd said no as hed gone back to the van to retrieve the parcel. I said OK, so you meant YOU personally have to ring the bell as oppose to just being able to open the door as she did and he said no, I was saying she shouldn't have just opened the door. I told him it wasn't his place to tell my daughter whether she could open the door, that it was her home and if he had an issue, he should have spoken to her parents instead of addressing her and walking away. He then tutted at me and walked away.
I have checked our cameras and at no time is she anywhere near him so it's not that he's annoyed she came too close. WIBU here?
I'll fully accept if I should have left him to say his piece but I don't understand what DD did wrong in this scenario?
YABU - delivery driver has every right to say what he did
YANBU - what's his bloody problem?
AIBU?
Delivery Driver. WIBU?
LoubyLoubLoub · 22/06/2020 15:49
Am I being unreasonable?
242 votes. Final results.
POLLI don't think he meant it generally, as I clarified with him did he mean he personally as a driver can't just open the door and he said no, I'm telling her she can't just open random people's doors.
I'd struggle to believe he didn't know she lived here. It's a detached house with a private front garden and a fairly long drive. I also told him this was her house as she'd said I'll fetch my Mum and he just repeated that she couldn't go round opening random doors 
It's a gated estate with only 10 houses. A masked man would struggle to get in. I had told security this morning I'm expecting a delivery or else he wouldn't have been able to drive in anyway.
I wrote my post because I wanted to know whether I was baffled over nothing (turns out I am!) and to be fairly honest, there's not a great deal else to do at the moment other than shop, which I won't do now incase he comes back
@heartsonacake I wish I had the nerve. Challenging the delivery driver was out of the ordinary for me. I'm actually quite reserved and would worry that I'd cause a scene if I corrected someone else's child. I feel I should point out, if my child was in the wrong I wouldn't have an issue with someone else telling them (she'd probably take more notice!) I'm just a bit of a 'mard arse' as my DMIL calls me 
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@jamandtonic for which bit? For being bothered by it afterwards or addressing it in the first place? Quite a strong answer for something most feel isn't a big deal 
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