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Mum's opinions on this please!

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Halouk Mon 22-Jun-20 14:06:01

My 10 year old g/d has often had a lazy attitude but her mother is similar (my son's ex but she happily admits it). Since lockdown my g/d has started wanting to go to bed later and later. It used to be 10pm but occasionally when she stays with me, she's allowed a treat to stay up a little later if she's been good. However, his Mum's sisters are both weed smokers (as is her Mum) and I don't have a problem with that but they stay awake until 4-5am andsleep all day and now my g/d wants to do the same with her sleeping habits. A few weeks ago she was going to bed and getting up around 8am but she'd be on her own till her Mum got up between 12 and 1pm. At first she was complaining but now she wants to do the same. Her whole attitude has changed towards school too in that 'Well I don't need a job, my mum hasn't got one and she's doing fine', that type of thing. I don't want to interfere at all but is this a normal thing to do? During the evenings my g/d has to stay in her room while mum and b/f smoke weed. They also don't have internet in the house so g.d sits on her bedroom windowsill and uses next door's. Am I worrying too much?

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PurpleDaisies Mon 22-Jun-20 14:08:42


How could that possibly be normal or acceptable?

Halouk Mon 22-Jun-20 14:10:04

Thank you - I thought it was just me! x

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Moooms Mon 22-Jun-20 14:11:19

I'm godsmacked.
Call the social asap!

Halouk Mon 22-Jun-20 14:12:54

Mooms, she'll know it's me because she knows g/d has told me all this and I don't want to jeopardise my relationship with my grand-daughter sad

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AryaStarkWolf Mon 22-Jun-20 14:13:51

Of course that's not right or normal. If they're taking drugs around your g/d maybe your son she'd be intervening in some ways, not good at for your g/d

PurpleDaisies Mon 22-Jun-20 14:15:21

You don’t have the luxury of not reporting this. She is a child at risk. You are an adult. You are morally bound to report it.

Halouk Mon 22-Jun-20 14:17:16

Thanks all for the replies - I'm going to do it

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Soontobe60 Mon 22-Jun-20 14:18:00

By not reporting this, you’re colluding with the neglect! Of course it needs reporting! You know you can do it anonymously don’t you?

Moooms Mon 22-Jun-20 14:18:09

I agree with PurpleDaises, you have to intervene, this poor child. What does your son say/do about all this?

FelicityPike Mon 22-Jun-20 14:19:21


Mooms, she'll know it's me because she knows g/d has told me all this and I don't want to jeopardise my relationship with my grand-daughter sad

So you’d rather put your granddaughter in jeopardy?
That’s not being a good person never mind grandmother!

Halouk Mon 22-Jun-20 14:23:09

I've reported her twice before and also made the school aware so yes, I'll do it again asap. Thanks all for your replies ☺

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PurpleDaisies Mon 22-Jun-20 14:30:14

That was a quick change of mind.

I hope that’s genuine.

Halouk Mon 22-Jun-20 14:33:55

It wasn't really a change of mind it was more of a 'kick up the ass'! I had it in my mind to do it but just needed a push.

Everyone in the area where she lives smokes weed (according to the school head in a private convo) so I wasn't sure if SS would act on it .

Thanks again for the reassurances

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ArthurMorgan Mon 22-Jun-20 16:42:44

Sounds like my upbringing confused

xmummy2princesx Mon 22-Jun-20 16:49:25

It deffo needs to be reported

Washinginthetimeofcovid Mon 22-Jun-20 16:53:21

Where's your son in this? Is he concerned?

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