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haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:30:53

I'm gonna not put many details here just incase she is on here.
I was friends with a woman for years,she always had it in for me (trying to make me look stupid,talking down to me,tried it on with my ex etc"
Anyway 7 months ago after I started dating her guy friend she fell out with me then started telling him I was crazy and to dump me.
She said I went to her house and threatened her (I never ) told him I owed her £300 (I never )
Then in March ..a social worker knocked at my door.
Someone had phoned crime stoppers and said I was abusing my mother (obviously not true )
I know it was her,I can't prove it.
I'm trying to show this guy what she's like.
He can't see it.
She's playing the victim.
She's great at it.
What can I do?
How can I win with crazy behaviour?

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GinDaddyRedux Sun 21-Jun-20 22:32:41

What connection does your boyfriend still have to this person - are they still friends?

haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:34:08

@GinDaddyRedux they are still friends and socialise.
Me and him aren't dating anymore because of all of this but we speak daily .

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Ponoka7 Sun 21-Jun-20 22:36:01

She's possibly ot a personality disorder or is a true narcissist. You can't win and will lose your boyfriend if you carry on.

Ignore, shut down and address anything that you can, depending on what's most appropriate.

Ponoka7 Sun 21-Jun-20 22:36:54

X post. You've got to let it go.

Itsjustabitofbanter Sun 21-Jun-20 22:37:27

I’d fuck the lot of them off. It’s sad that she’s driven a wedge between you, but considering he’s basically took her side and let her get away with it, I think you’re better off without him. He should have dropped her the moment she started all this

haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:38:15

It's chewing me up that she's painted me out to be this person.
To go as far as ringing crime stoppers.
It's not normal yet everyone thinks the sun shines out of her backside.
She's so fake
My friend has said ,they'll see her true colours eventually and to let nature take its course.
It's hard

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haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:39:25

He should have seen what she was doing in all fairness but chose to ignore it.
The icing on the cake was two weeks ago when he tagged her in a happy birthday post with pics of them both on nights out.
I was fuming

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haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:40:12

Do you think he knows she rang crime stoppers?
Or do you think that was just her.
I don't know who to trust

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OhCaptain Sun 21-Jun-20 22:41:20

He chose her. Let it go. What are you gaining from still thinking about it?

SomeoneElseEntirelyNow Sun 21-Jun-20 22:41:50

This sounds like a lot of drama OP, are you all fairly young? I'd block him and her on everything and get on with a nice peaceful life without them.

OhCaptain Sun 21-Jun-20 22:42:27

Also why are you speaking every day if you’re not together? And why are you fuming that two friend went on a birthday night out? confused

haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:44:21

I'm fuming because she's lied about every part of my life,made false accusations about me Abusing my mother to crime stoppers all because I'm dating her friend.
She's got away with it all.

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Ellisandra Sun 21-Jun-20 22:45:17

Why are you speaking to him daily?
Your so called boyfriend took her side over yours. Why would you still have him in your life?
Time to cut out the deadwood and expand your social circle so you’re not dating her mates.
That will serve you better than trying to get anywhere with her.

Ellisandra Sun 21-Jun-20 22:46:21

You’re not dating her friend though? I’m lost!

You could call 101 and ask them for advice about harassment, over the malicious Crimestoppers call.

OhCaptain Sun 21-Jun-20 22:46:53

I’m lost, too. Why aren’t you just leaving them to it?

haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:46:51

I wanted him to see her for what she is.
I want her to admit all the lies she's told.
I want an explanation why she's done this.
I don't understand why she's done it.
That is some serious hate.
I still have feelings for him.

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Chickychickydodah Sun 21-Jun-20 22:47:02

I’d get rid of them both, block and move on ...

haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:47:51

@Ellisandra I want to get back together with him.
That's why we still text daily.
We are meant to be meeting for a drink when pubs reopen.
It's hard when all of this is going on in the background.
It's all complicated

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LagunaBubbles Sun 21-Jun-20 22:48:09

Why are you still squeaking daily? I don't even do that with my best friend.

haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:49:08

Also as crime stoppers is anon I can't prove it was her.
Maybe I need to let it all lie now.
It's actually making me upset.

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OhCaptain Sun 21-Jun-20 22:49:20

Why would you want to get back with him when all of this drama comes with it?

Like I said, you told him your suspicions, he believed her. He chose to continue his friendship with her and stop dating you.

That’s pretty clear. You need to move on from them both.

haffc Sun 21-Jun-20 22:49:50

@OhCaptain your probably right.
It's too much drama

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Ellisandra Sun 21-Jun-20 22:50:00

Oh I get it - you were dating him when you think she rang Crimestoppers. He’s chosen her - and that’s shit - but why have you not blocked or muted them both on whatever social media you saw the birthday night out on? That’s an odd choice.

OhCaptain Sun 21-Jun-20 22:50:43

@haffc for your own sake, I think you do. Some people are just shit.

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