To think hes changing his mind

[Greyandpink]

Ive been with my bf for a year and a bit, were in our 30's and have a child each. Talks of buying a house together, we get on good with each others friends and fam. He lives an hour from me so we see each other maybe once or twice a week.

Lately i just feel like hes not that into us. Also, so when i met him i was roughly the size i am maybe few pounds lighter but not loads. Im mid size so not skinny but not the other end either. But i do wonder if thats contributing.

Hes not very affectionate, also its always me initiating seeing each other.

I dont know.

Should i...

A) Tell him how i feel n see

[Greyandpink]

Sorry pressed post too soon


A) tell him how i feel n see what he says


Or B) Take a bit of a back seat n see if he initiates etc.


I feel like hes showing alot of interest in other girls too, on the street via instagram etc.

Maybe im being sensitive.

Any thoughts? Xx

[Notimeforaname]

Is there a 'B)'?

[VesperLynne]

You need to know where you stand. No point investing in a relationship that’s going nowhere.

[Notimeforaname]

Ah sorry op! Just saw your next post!

[Notimeforaname]

Yes I would ask him flat out.

[Twigletfairy]

You need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel and go from there

[Notimeforaname]

A. Tell him and see how he responds.

[missrks]

Tell him you need some reassurance that it's all going in the right direction. It doesn't need to be an ultimatum. Just that you're feeling a little bit unsure of his feelings. If he isn't responsive to that then at least you know where you stand.

[Prayerwheel]

OP, in the nicest possible way, there’s a total disconnect between the part of your post that says you’re considering moving in together and the bit that describes an unaffectionate, unenthusiastic man you see once or twice a week, and only then if you initiate it. You’re flogging a dead horse here. You deserve someone who genuinely wants to be in your life.

[Thelnebriati]

C) end it yourself isn't an option? Its the early days, there's supposed to be a spark between you, he's supposed to show a bit of enthusiasm. Instead he never contacts you first, and when he's there he isnt, he's looking at other women.

[Greyandpink]

Must, he rings me more n mostly initiates the msgs. But in terms of seeing each other i feel its more me, but he does also come over randomly to surprise me.

I think youre right ppl choosing A i need to lay it all out.

[NC4Now]

Yep, A

[FurbabyLife]

If a guy is into you, there is absolutely no doubt. They will find a way to see you, they will find a way to talk to you.

If you feel like he’s not that into you... he’s not. Plenty more guys out there that will be.

[JustC]

Def A. Also, him showing interest in other women when you can see/notice is very disrespectful, and I personally would end it.