Hi folks,
Apologies, I’m not a mum but a dad. Hope you don’t mind me asking advice but not sure where best to seek advice..
I’m a 42 year old man that has two kids I love to pieces.
I’ve been in a relationship for nearly ten years with my partner (the kids mum) but the sex essentially dried up 1 year into the relationship (before we had kids).
We have sex on average about 6 times a year and only really if I can schedule it in with her in advance (it’s never been a passionate, in the spur of the moment thing, she doesn’t really do physical contact such as hugs, holding hands or kisses etc...)
She’s pretty much always tired (even before we had kids, it’s safe to say we’re both knackered since they arrived), and she doesn’t like chat, prefers to keep herself absorbed in a book etc rather than engage with me.
We don’t really argue much though it does happen occasionally (maybe once a month).
Sadly I expect her to leave (or rather request that I leave) when the kids are old enough to not be seriously affected by it emotionally.
I guess my question is whether it’s ok for me to satisfy the sexual side of the relationship elsewhere but remain a father at home to my kids. Our relationship is sadly quite loveless (I’d prefer it with hugs and kisses etc but it’s not her thing) but we get on quite well and we both love our kids immensely.
Any advice would be great thanks
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Sex outside of a loveless relationship ok?
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james1979 · 20/06/2020 10:46
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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