'Crushes' are rarely one sided

[Truedak]

Inspired by a conversation with a friend, I think that when a woman is really attracted to a man, it's rarely one sided. I reckon most men would fancy a woman that seemed into them. Am I wrong?

[MiddleClassProblem]

My teenager years do not concur...

[Tryingtoslim]

From personal experience and also from living with 3 men( not family) that’s not the case unfortunately

[TomPettysTopHat]

What MiddleClassProblem said!!!

[CathyComesHome]

I agree, and am just waiting for Tom Hiddleston to come to his senses.

[TitianaTitsling]

That is good news! Good to know 90s Leo Di Capprio also had a crush on me!

[Pedalboat]

Absolutely untrue in my experience.

[SquashedSpring]

If only this were true!

[Pelleas]

Totally untrue. Of course there might be mutual attraction, but having a crush on someone doesn't influence that. The most you could hope for from one-sided crushing (if that's the right word) is that if your crush is on someone not very scrupulous and you are passably attractive to him, he might take advantage of your feelings for a few shags.

[WinterAndRoughWeather]

Nah, they’re usually one-sided in my experience. I think it’s quite easy for someone to reciprocate a crush when they find out someone has one on them, but it doesn’t lead to a relationship unless the attraction is mutual from the start.

[Truedak]

I'm not necessarily thinking about long -term relationships starting, moreso that attraction is typically mutual whenever a woman flirting

[MiddleClassProblem]

Genuinely flung myself at a few and been rebounded back 😂

And I was pretty decent at the time. Unfortunately, I was more of a muppet around a crush...

[Samtsirch]

‘ crushes ‘ are rarely one sided.
‘Unrequited love ‘ always is.

[PumpkinP]

I don’t think so, I have a huge crush on my sons teacher (he definitely doesn’t fancy me 😂 )

[mrbob]

Crushes have almost ALWAYS been totally one sided for me

[Samtsirch]

@PumpkinP
Bless you 😊
You’re probably not the only one though.

[Browzingss]

What if she isn’t the guy’s type or he has his eyes on someone else?

[Sparklesocks]

Disagree.
And not all women ‘flirt’ or show signs of their crush if they fear it won’t be reciprocated.

I do think a man might flirt back with someone who has a crush on him (and the same with the genders reversed) - but that doesn’t mean he reciprocates. Some people flirt just because it’s fun.

[CrazyToast]

I think that a man is less likely to want a woman with an obvious crush as they like to be the chaser, but a woman can be worn down/come around to the idea if a man is a persistant crusher. Culture, sexism etc.

And oh how I wish all the men I have ever crushed on, felt the the same haha.

[Pelleas]

moreso that attraction is typically mutual whenever a woman flirting

Nope. Not if you're plain/unattractive/hideous. Probably not always even if you are attractive.

[Samtsirch]

@Truedak
Reality check.

[PumpkinP]

He totally knows aswell Samtsirch I looked way too happy when he said he was going to be DS teacher for another year

[Samtsirch]

@Pelleas
A bit harsh, but definitely getting the point across.

[Samtsirch]

@PumpkinP
😂
Just enjoy it then 👍🏼

[Pelleas]

A bit harsh, but definitely getting the point across.

Alas, I am talking from personal experience. Life is harsh if you're the wrong side of average.

[TheHoneyBadger]

yabu - the whole point of a crush is that it is a fruitless, you know it can't be and wouldn't really want it to be yet somehow you have this big soft spot.

Pot bellied dentist who had a nice smile, totally not my type, totally not proper attracted to him and clearly I wasn't his type either - crush.

The leader of the gurdwara I used to visit as part of an old job - barely spoke english, epic beard and clearly not into non sikh middle aged single mums but had this lovely glow about him - crush.

Kid to their teacher - crush.

The whole point of a 'crush' rather than just fancying someone is that it is impossible and ridiculous but irrationally you (one sidedly) crush on that person.