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'Crushes' are rarely one sided

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Truedak Fri 19-Jun-20 23:05:14

Inspired by a conversation with a friend, I think that when a woman is really attracted to a man, it's rarely one sided. I reckon most men would fancy a woman that seemed into them. Am I wrong?

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MiddleClassProblem Fri 19-Jun-20 23:06:14

My teenager years do not concur...

Tryingtoslim Fri 19-Jun-20 23:06:42

From personal experience and also from living with 3 men( not family) that’s not the case unfortunately

TomPettysTopHat Fri 19-Jun-20 23:08:03

What MiddleClassProblem said!!!

CathyComesHome Fri 19-Jun-20 23:11:02

I agree, and am just waiting for Tom Hiddleston to come to his senses.

TitianaTitsling Fri 19-Jun-20 23:13:09

That is good news! Good to know 90s Leo Di Capprio also had a crush on me!

Pedalboat Fri 19-Jun-20 23:13:19

Absolutely untrue in my experience.

SquashedSpring Fri 19-Jun-20 23:14:17

If only this were true!

Pelleas Fri 19-Jun-20 23:15:21

Totally untrue. Of course there might be mutual attraction, but having a crush on someone doesn't influence that. The most you could hope for from one-sided crushing (if that's the right word) is that if your crush is on someone not very scrupulous and you are passably attractive to him, he might take advantage of your feelings for a few shags.

Nah, they’re usually one-sided in my experience. I think it’s quite easy for someone to reciprocate a crush when they find out someone has one on them, but it doesn’t lead to a relationship unless the attraction is mutual from the start.

Truedak Fri 19-Jun-20 23:29:45

I'm not necessarily thinking about long -term relationships starting, moreso that attraction is typically mutual whenever a woman flirting

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MiddleClassProblem Fri 19-Jun-20 23:32:41

Genuinely flung myself at a few and been rebounded back 😂

And I was pretty decent at the time. Unfortunately, I was more of a muppet around a crush...

Samtsirch Fri 19-Jun-20 23:32:56

‘ crushes ‘ are rarely one sided.
‘Unrequited love ‘ always is.

PumpkinP Fri 19-Jun-20 23:35:08

I don’t think so, I have a huge crush on my sons teacher (he definitely doesn’t fancy me 😂 )

mrbob Fri 19-Jun-20 23:39:19

Crushes have almost ALWAYS been totally one sided for me

Samtsirch Fri 19-Jun-20 23:40:47

Bless you 😊
You’re probably not the only one though.

Browzingss Fri 19-Jun-20 23:41:10

What if she isn’t the guy’s type or he has his eyes on someone else?

Sparklesocks Fri 19-Jun-20 23:41:33

And not all women ‘flirt’ or show signs of their crush if they fear it won’t be reciprocated.

I do think a man might flirt back with someone who has a crush on him (and the same with the genders reversed) - but that doesn’t mean he reciprocates. Some people flirt just because it’s fun.

CrazyToast Fri 19-Jun-20 23:41:41

I think that a man is less likely to want a woman with an obvious crush as they like to be the chaser, but a woman can be worn down/come around to the idea if a man is a persistant crusher. Culture, sexism etc.

And oh how I wish all the men I have ever crushed on, felt the the same haha.

Pelleas Fri 19-Jun-20 23:42:12

moreso that attraction is typically mutual whenever a woman flirting

Nope. Not if you're plain/unattractive/hideous. Probably not always even if you are attractive.

Samtsirch Fri 19-Jun-20 23:42:19

Reality check.

PumpkinP Fri 19-Jun-20 23:43:27

He totally knows aswell Samtsirch I looked way too happy when he said he was going to be DS teacher for another year blush

Samtsirch Fri 19-Jun-20 23:44:25

A bit harsh, but definitely getting the point across.

Samtsirch Fri 19-Jun-20 23:46:42

Just enjoy it then 👍🏼

Pelleas Fri 19-Jun-20 23:48:08

A bit harsh, but definitely getting the point across.

Alas, I am talking from personal experience. Life is harsh if you're the wrong side of average.

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