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OP, ignore those posters who say ... AIBU to be think this is really fucking rude?

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Megatron Fri 19-Jun-20 21:42:23

I keep seeing this now. OP posts something, people respond and then someone (sometimes more) comes along and says 'Ignore the posters who blah blah blah'. In other words 'ignore everyone who disagrees with me'. Can't these people have a conversation or debate with anyone? It's really rather rude.

Dear reader, I should should say that I'm really not terribly worried by this, it's just a mild annoyance because I think it's a cop out for proper conversation.

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parentofteen Fri 19-Jun-20 21:43:25

I normally see it being used when the OP is being piled on by other posters.

Thisismytimetoshine Fri 19-Jun-20 21:44:51

parentofteen

I normally see it being used when the OP is being piled on by other posters.

More usually when some officious know it all is certain they're right and everyone else is wrong,

cologne4711 Fri 19-Jun-20 21:45:34

No I tell the OP to ignore posters who are being unnecessarily rude or saying things like the OP is vile or selfish - ie making personal attacks.

TacosTuesday Fri 19-Jun-20 21:46:06

I would agree in principle, but on occasion those posters are saying things like 'I can't believe you got yourself in this situation, I would never do that. You're actually a dreadful person. Hope that helps'...so sometimes it is reasonable to say to posters, 'bloody well ignore that, there's a way out!'

GreytExpectations Fri 19-Jun-20 21:47:48

More usually when some officious know it all is certain they're right and everyone else is wrong

This. But then I've come to realise Mumsnet is not the place to have mature, intellectual discussions about disagreeing opinions. I go to other sites for that and just read the drama on here for entertainment grin

Whynotnowbaby Fri 19-Jun-20 21:48:08

It depends what they are saying you should ignore. I was reading a post earlier where the first few posts did nothing but criticise the op’s grammar. It was horrible and totally unfair on the op who was clearly stressed and needing real advice. In that case I think there is nothing wrong at all with calling them out and saying they should be ignored as they made no attempt to engage with the question.

CrunchyCrumpet Fri 19-Jun-20 21:48:09

Have to agree with PP, I most often see it when the OP is being attacked and posters being unhelpful/off topic.

Bluntness100 Fri 19-Jun-20 21:49:48

Agree, I find it very odd and slightly arrogant to be honest. Some random rolls in and says ignore everyone but me, it’s batshit. 🤣

anonacatchat Fri 19-Jun-20 21:53:22

Well it isn't rude to come on and correct those who have shared incorrect information . Doing a huge favour !

VeniVidiWeeWee Fri 19-Jun-20 22:08:29

GreytExpectations

*More usually when some officious know it all is certain they're right and everyone else is wrong*

This. But then I've come to realise Mumsnet is not the place to have mature, intellectual discussions about disagreeing opinions. I go to other sites for that and just read the drama on here for entertainment grin

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Samtsirch Fri 19-Jun-20 22:12:10

Dear Reader Megatron, ignore the posters who blah blah blah.
🤣

TheRealShatParp Fri 19-Jun-20 22:14:37

I also find this annoying, along with ‘I’m sure someone will be along in a minute to tell you blah blah blah, but....).

OoohTheStatsDontLie Fri 19-Jun-20 22:20:40

I've seen it on posts where people have given incorrect medical advice eg leav s child naked and give them a sponge bath if they've got a fever - which is dangerous. So I think fair enough in those instances. Also when people advise he OP to show their violent abusive partner their thread with everyone saying leave, it's not a good idea and people are saying it because they are worried about the OP

WorraLiberty Fri 19-Jun-20 22:22:56

Yes I keep seeing this more lately too and it's not just 'Ignore rude posters'.

It's often when someone doesn't agree with the other opinions.

More childish than rude I think.

CaraDune Fri 19-Jun-20 22:25:51

OoohTheStatsDontLie

I've seen it on posts where people have given incorrect medical advice eg leav s child naked and give them a sponge bath if they've got a fever - which is dangerous. So I think fair enough in those instances. Also when people advise he OP to show their violent abusive partner their thread with everyone saying leave, it's not a good idea and people are saying it because they are worried about the OP

Yes, those are the main situations I've seen it used in - when a poster is genuinely suggesting something dangerous. (That, and as PP have noted, threads where some arse is putting the boot into the OP for no apparent reason.)

RainingMeatballs Fri 19-Jun-20 22:27:33

Couldn’t it just be paraphrased with ‘don’t be upset by the trolls’?

Megatron Fri 19-Jun-20 22:42:22

More usually when some officious know it all is certain they're right and everyone else is wrong

Agreed.

Couldn’t it just be paraphrased with ‘don’t be upset by the trolls’?. But it's often just when someone disagrees, rather than being a troll. @Rainingmeatballs. It's the whole 'dismiss anyone else who isn't me' things that gets my goat I suppose.

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eaglejulesk Fri 19-Jun-20 22:49:25

It's usually because of some incredibly rude and obnoxious posters. There is a difference between offering constructive advice and being downright unpleasant, and posters should not have to be subject to the latter.

GreytExpectations Fri 19-Jun-20 22:50:01

RainingMeatballs

Couldn’t it just be paraphrased with ‘don’t be upset by the trolls’?

Well no because not all posters who disagree are trolls hmm

Megatron Fri 19-Jun-20 22:55:55

I disagree @eaglejulesk, twice today I've seen it just because someone disagreed with the poster who told the OP to ignore. Both were just posts telling the OP to ignore anyone else who said something different to the advice they were giving. It's really quite arrogant.

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ilovesooty Fri 19-Jun-20 22:57:42

I agree. It comes over to me as "ignore everyone who isn't validating you".

ilovesooty Fri 19-Jun-20 22:59:43

And it is rude when you see "OP ignore poster name "

Starbuggy Fri 19-Jun-20 23:00:59

I usually see it with either factually wrong or dangerous advice or when people are being unnecessarily nasty

I’m not saying people don’t use it to mean “ignore anyone who disagrees” but I think used that way it carries less weight when it’s a matter of opinion

Bluntness100 Sat 20-Jun-20 07:35:14

Putting right incorrect information or accusing someone of being a troll is very different to ignore everyone who says x.

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