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Social distancing and giving lifts

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01Username Fri 19-Jun-20 14:46:57

I am going to a family bbq tomorrow and will be driving as I don’t drink. I’ve been asked to give a lift to other people going (who I don’t live with) so they can all drink - AIBU to say no because of social distancing ?

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Apolloanddaphne Fri 19-Jun-20 14:48:16

I wouldn't give anyone a lift for those very reasons.

TheDaydreamBelievers Fri 19-Jun-20 14:50:14

YANBU - a car is basically a small room. You cannot give people a lift at the moment.

Appuskidu Fri 19-Jun-20 14:50:41

Absolutely not.

CecilyP Fri 19-Jun-20 14:51:12

I might offer for one person sitting back seat near side in a reasonably sized car. I certainly wouldn’t take a group.

Redolent Fri 19-Jun-20 14:52:34

Driving back a bunch of drunk people in a small enclosed space sound like my idea of a nightmare right now. I’d be looking to make an early exit from the BBQ too. Highly unlikely they’ll stick to social distancing after they’ve had a few.

Lifts are OK in unusual situations, eg dropping someone off to hospital, but even then both parties should wear masks and keep the windows open as much as possible.

IwishIhadaMargarita Fri 19-Jun-20 14:53:17

Yep you would not be a silly distanced so it’s not permitted. Mil keeps wanting us to pick her up to take her places. Nope not happening!

TeapotCollection Fri 19-Jun-20 14:55:43

Definitely NBU, not allowed - simple as that

01Username Fri 19-Jun-20 14:58:59

Thank you everyone for your replies - it’s caused a huge argument so I was worried I was being selfish but going to stick to my guns smile

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awesomeaircraft Fri 19-Jun-20 15:06:29

YANBU. They can walk/bus or cycle it, or God forbid, one of them who is not into SD could not drink beyond the legal limit.

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 19-Jun-20 15:09:27

I've done back, far seat, windows open, clean car before and after.

I have noticed a decided lack of care in SD and touching things after drinking. DH had a socially distanced BBQ for his birthday and one of his friends was hugging people at the end. Not sober me or drunk DH who got told.

Appuskidu Fri 19-Jun-20 15:13:44

it’s caused a huge argument

I wouldn’t be going at all in that case! Bloody cheeky people!

BlessYourCottonSocks Fri 19-Jun-20 15:14:16

It's a ridiculous suggestion from them - particularly as others have pointed out its for the vital reason of them wanting to get pissed...

I'm in at work all next week - an hour's drive each way - and I usually lift share with a colleague. We are travelling separately in our own cars precisely because of social distancing. And our trips are necessary, rather than BBQ based.

roses2 Fri 19-Jun-20 15:21:29

You'll be in trouble if stopped by the police - use that as your excuse.

starfish4 Fri 19-Jun-20 15:24:52

No way. I'm going to a friend's house (should I say garden!) tonight. Another friend who is going lives around the back of me, we'll be travelling there separately.

Bagelsandbrie Fri 19-Jun-20 15:26:09

There’s no way I would do this but where I live taxis are still operating - as in normal cars with no screens etc. All seems weird!

Bagelsandbrie Fri 19-Jun-20 15:26:24

I mean I would give anyone a lift either.

Spied Fri 19-Jun-20 15:28:58

No way and it's very rude of them to ask and put you in this situation.

Purpleartichoke Fri 19-Jun-20 15:29:11

I would also want the option to leave early if people aren’t following good practices as the party progresses.

FunTimes2020 Fri 19-Jun-20 15:29:46

01Username

Thank you everyone for your replies - it’s caused a huge argument so I was worried I was being selfish but going to stick to my guns smile

How unkind of family to cause a huge argument over this. I would be tempted not to go, although perhaps the host isn't one of the unpleasant ones.

NotEverythingIsBlackandWhite Fri 19-Jun-20 15:31:36

@CecilyP
"I might offer for one person sitting back seat near side in a reasonably sized car. I certainly wouldn’t take a group."
Why would you put yourself at risk by doing this? We have to queue 2 metres apart outside a supermarket yet you would put yourself in an indoor situation with less distance between you and a n other. Why would you do that?

MitchellMummy Fri 19-Jun-20 15:46:01

I wouldn't either. Maybe the people could look into taxis - either black cabs or the big people carriers (van style) so there's a gap between driver and rear row of seats.

onalongsabbatical Fri 19-Jun-20 15:49:47

If they're going to argue about this AND they're going to drink I suggest they might not actually keep up with the social distancing while they're there OP. I'd avoid them altogether.

tenlittlecygnets Fri 19-Jun-20 15:51:55

If they're going to argue about this AND they're going to drink I suggest they might not actually keep up with the social distancing while they're there OP. I'd avoid them altogether.

This.

Khione Fri 19-Jun-20 15:55:25

I gave my daughter a lift from the supermarket. I'm retired, she's been working from home. We have both only been out for shopping.

Me giving her a lift was safer than her getting a taxi with a stranger who also had had others in the car.

I wouldn't currently give anyone a lift for purely social reasons.

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