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2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 17:33:50

i got preggi at 16 then married at 17, now im 18 with a man 11yrs older than me that treats me with no respect even tho everything thing we have got i got it all by myself. he dont show love in the right ways and i cant go out wid m8s for birthday partys or anyhing. any advice?

bubblagirl Mon 24-Sep-07 17:40:16

i rewally dont know what to say sorry you feel this way but you made the choices to have baby and get married young it does stop you from going out with friends

sorry he doesn't treat you with respect if you no longer love him then leave but you still wont have the freedom you crave as you have a dc

if you do want to be with him sit down anf tell him how you feel and see if you can work things out once again its your choice on what you do as only you know what you want

i understand you probably feel your missing out as your mates are going out but you chose to settle down and with this it means sacrifices too

bubblagirl Mon 24-Sep-07 17:40:28

really lol

2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 17:43:06

i love my lil boy more than anything this hasnt got anything to do with him. my husband stop me from doin anything i have to b with him, he came home from work one night and the door was locked he flipped n sed i woz cheatin on him i had my lil boy in my arms but yet he still yelled at me n searched the whole house

FioFio Mon 24-Sep-07 17:44:59

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newlifenewname Mon 24-Sep-07 17:45:03

If there's ANY chance you can complete your words this thread of yours may get some serious attention. Don't wish to be rude but, txt spk spells troll here sadly.

Have you rung Women's aid yet?

InMyHumbleOpinion Mon 24-Sep-07 17:45:54

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womens aid

ring it and talk to them if you want to end the relationship and can't

2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 17:46:34

if he knew i woz on here he wud flipp at me he used 2 be fun n laid bk but know hes horrible to me makes me feel worthless the only thing keepin me goin is me lil boy

xXxamyxXx Mon 24-Sep-07 17:47:39

i dont think your age has much do do with it whatever age you have a baby it means loads of sacrifices and having everything change thou you should be able to have a night out every now and again does he go out?would have a talk about the respect thing its important

2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 17:48:05

hes not hittin me just bein horrible hes never had the chance to hit me the police got here in time luckly i dont want to waste there time theres alot more goin off in the world than wots happening to me

2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 17:49:16

he doesnt go out cause he thinks i'l get up 2 something but iv neva done anything to make him think like that.

newlifenewname Mon 24-Sep-07 17:49:22

women's aid isn't bout physical violence alone

sparklygothkat Mon 24-Sep-07 17:51:17

please use full sentances, people don't like text speak here.

Anyway, I was 18 when I fell pregnant with DS and we married when I was 4 months pregnant. Its hard being so young, but 10 years on, we have 2 little girls too with another boy on his way.

xXxamyxXx Mon 24-Sep-07 17:51:22

sorry had only seen your first message when i replied id run for the bloody hills buggy in tow thats not normal behavior sounds like a controlling nut have you family who could help you?

sparklygothkat Mon 24-Sep-07 17:52:22

TBH he sounds like an arse. I would consider phoning the woman's aid number, even if only for advice

InMyHumbleOpinion Mon 24-Sep-07 17:53:51

"theres alot more goin off in the world than wots happening to me"

Right. There's the secret.

YOU ARE WORTH JUST AS MUCH AS ANYONE ELSE.

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH A SHIT RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE YOU HAD A BABY AT 17.

YOU HAVE THE WORLD'S PERMISSION TO END THE RELATIONSHIP.

IF YOU FEAR THAT YOU WILL BE PHYSICALLY OR EMOTIONALLY HURT BY ENDING THE RELATIONSHIP, YOU ARE FULLY ENTITLED TO CALL WOMEN'S AID.

YOU DESERVE BETTER.

I know you don't believe me, but for your son's sake can you please try to live your young life as if you had some self esteem?sad

2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 18:00:03

im talkin to them now. iv got some self esteem left but not much

Homebird8 Mon 24-Sep-07 18:01:16

IMHO says it all really. You obviously love your little boy and he deserves a happy mum who can give him her best. You aren't going to be able to do that if you live in fear and don't believe you deserve better.

You are a really special person. Ring Women's Aid and talk it through with them. Your son mustn't learn that what is happening around him is acceptable behaviour.

You are strong enough to have this conversation and strong enough to make your own decisions. Take a deep breath and pick up the phone.

fawkeoff Mon 24-Sep-07 18:05:27

i'm seconding IMHO on this one hun...many women on this site have had babies and got married at a young age, but it doesn't mean that u have to be a human doormat for this man to walk all over you.I had my dd when i was 17 and yes ihave made sacrifices but i would never let my dp treat me like a piece of shit.

2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 18:05:43

i want to end the relationship really bad iv tried so many times but he always makes me feel iv done everything wrong n that he aint done nothing so why shud he go.

fawkeoff Mon 24-Sep-07 18:07:11

are you in any positon to just leave??? womens aid can help you with refuge centres, then you will get housed of the council or a housing association x

2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 18:09:00

i cant leave everything iv got it took me 2yrs n theres no way im leavin it for him i want him out but i know he will make my life hell wen hes gone.

2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 18:10:20

he made up loads of lies about me the last time he left he even made my dad believe i woz takin E's everyday, he will turn every1 against me

2young2know Mon 24-Sep-07 18:11:03

i know he can coz he is very convinsing.(sorry cant spell that well)

fawkeoff Mon 24-Sep-07 18:13:36

well at the end of the day those that really know you wil not listen to his bullshit hun...you need to kick him out, and if he harasses you then phone the police

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